- Ms Bookworm
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Hi hive! I tried to keep the backstory from being TL;DR, but I also wanted to elaborate in case other bees are/have been in my same shoes. Feel free to skip to the pics if you don’t care about my jibber jabber.
After A LOT of shopping, I finally ordered my wedding gown a couple weeks ago. I knew it was special as soon as I put it on, and I didn’t see any flaws or details I wanted to change the way I did with other dresses I liked but didn’t love. I felt awesome in it, and it had everything I knew I wanted (lace, ivory in color, not strapless, slightly flared shape at the bottom, vintage inspired, etc.). My mom flipped out over the dress, and said she knew it was the one. I felt great as we were ordering it, and was really excited over the next few days. Then… Doubt started to creep in. “Did I make a rash decision? Should I have slept on it before committing to that dress? Is that dress really the perfect one?”
I started reading about “dress regret” to see if I was crazy, and it seems like it’s a pretty common issue for brides… It makes sense because with most other wedding-related decisions, there are only so many options – but with dresses, the choices are endless! There is a lot of pressure to have the “perfect” dress that expresses you as a person and lives up to what you envisioned yourself in.
I think a large part of my doubt is that the night I ordered my dress, I rushed to the bridal shop right after work, so my makeup was gone & my hair was thrown up in a messy bun. I didn’t bring heels to wear, so the dress was way too long. We were crammed in a tiny, dimly lit fitting room – so the pictures I had of me in the dress were not flattering. I kept looking at the pics and thinking, “I felt so much better in the dress than I look in these photos.”
After struggling with the tugs of doubt for awhile (and spending WAY too much time worrying about it), I asked a good friend who has similar taste in fashion to go back to the shop with me. This time, I put on makeup, did my hair, and brought heels so I could get a better vision of how I’ll look on my wedding day in this dress. We went last night, and… My doubts are gone! I was reminded of why I fell in love with it, and I feel SO MUCH better about my decision to purchase this dress. I can’t wait until it comes in this summer!
So, without further ado… Here’s my dress! (P.S. The sample size is two sizes larger than what I ordered, so the top is still a little wonky. Obviously it will fit better when I have the right bra and it is tailored to me. Sorry about my black bra, also. It’s the only one I have that is a bit of a push-up. I will probably be wearing chicken cutlet-type things for the wedding, since the back of the dress has a deep-v.)