Post # 1
So a week before my wedding my maid of honour decided she wasn’t comfortable even coming to it, nevermind being in it. Thursday night she just had this talk with me where she said she thinks my relationship is emotionally abusive (which couldn’t be farther from the truth, she was listening to someone who kept saying that my fiance and I were fighting and not talking to us about it). But now… I really don’t know what to do. She won’t even do my bachelorette party anymore so yesterday I had to call everyone and tell them its cancelled. Why should it fall to me to do all of the explaining when she wouldn’t explain herself to me properly? So frustrating.
Post # 3
Wow. That sounds pretty bad considering your wedding is in a week! Are you having a formal wedding?
Post # 4
Whaaaat? That’s crazy! I assume she’s your best friend if she’s your Maid/Matron of Honor… and now she all of a sudden wants nothing to do with your wedding? Wtf?
But. Just have your bridesmaids! You only want people there who are going to support you anyway.
Post # 5
@Tigerlilybride: Ok so I will admit that i totally creeped your PP’s for some context… and there was none.
Weeeelll… except for the weirdness with the Best-lady strip poker thing. How did that turn out BTW?
So from your OP, I can see one of two things happening.
1. She truly believes that your SO sucks and is an abusive asshole/ just does not like him.
or 2. Has decided that she no longer wants to be your friend anymore.
Either way that sucks .
I am wondering if there is anything that would have made you notice a strain on your relationship with her. Since she HAD to know that by dropping out of the wedding and the Bach. party would ultimately result in the ending of the friendship.
Also, why did you cancel your Bach. party? Why couldnt you go out with your other BMs?
Post # 6
@Tigerlilybride: Does she personally know your Fiance and the way you two are together? It seems kind of weird that she would listen to someone else randomly.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
@Tigerlilybride: just sounds like a horrible friend to be honest. Even if i hated my best friends man i dont think i could do that to her. Just look forward and focus on making it the best time ever for you.
Post # 8
@imalittlebirdie: There really isn’t any context, it seriously just came out of nowhere. As far as his bachelor party and everything, we talked about it and he apologized about 10000 times and then promised me he wouldn’t drink no matter how much anyone encouraged him. He’s finally getting back from his bachelor today sometime.
I cancelled the party because only the Maid/Matron of Honor knew what was happening, and she said it was mostly playing games at home. But another friend is planning a new one for me!