Post # 1
Hello special ladies,
We are planning our wedding but came to the realization (been knowing but never thought of it) that I don’t have anyone to do a father daughter dance with. Mom been sick/unable to care for us since I was a child, grand father passed. Father absent. Soon to be father in law is cool but I don’t see him enough to be confortable to dance with him (lives in different state). The brother I would dance with is incarcerated. What should I do? Just let my partner dance with his mother and keep it moving like nothing happened?! I do plan to invite my father, but not sure if he comes. Either way, we wouldn’t be dancing together cause I know I would feel too awkward. Any ideas would be so helpful.
Post # 2
Do you have an uncle or a close male friend you could dance with ? If not maybe skip the parent dances altogether and let your fiancé dance with his mom when the rest of the crowd is up dancing
Post # 3
We skipped the parent dances altogether.
Post # 4
Let your Fiance have his mother-son dance if it’s important to him, but skip the dance for you. It’s not that big of a deal!
Post # 5
I am estranged from my mother and although my father and I are repairing our relationship, he wasn’t around when I was a child and I didn’t feel comfortable doing a father/daughter dance with him.
We just skipped the father/daughter and mother/son dances entirely. I haven’t seen them done at many weddings lately so I don’t think that’s particularly unusual. Dh did dance with his mother after our own dance, but it wasn’t a set thing.
Post # 6
Just skip it. The dance doesn’t make you more married.
Post # 7
We didn’t have official parent dances with announcements or anyone watching, we just chose to dance with our parents during a regular song. Maybe you could do that so your FH and Mother-In-Law can still have those memories but without calling everyone’s attention to what’s happening.
Post # 8
My dad had passed away before I was married. I didn’t dance with anyone except Dh. No big deal. If he wants a mother son dance, he should have one, but it doesn’t have to be “even” with you dancing with someone else, too.
Post # 9
Hey there, I’m in a very similar predicament. No close male relatives (family of 5 total) and my father left when I was 14. I’m going to let my fiancé do his mother son dance if it’s important to him and call it a day
Post # 10
Both sets of our parents has passed so we are not even thinking about parent dances. But maybe if you’re really set on it you could do it with another family member (ie, brother, sister, close uncle, etc.)?
Post # 11
Thanks everyone so much! All the support and great ideas are very appreciated!
Post # 12
Just skip the father daughter dance. If your fiance wants to do the mother son dance with everyone watching, let them do it, no big deal.
I was at a wedding there the bride danced with her father (it was choreographed and they were obviously experienced dancers) but there was no mother son dance. No one missed it.