No mother, absent father

posted 2 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Do you have an uncle or a close male friend you could dance with ? If not maybe skip the parent dances altogether and let your fiancé dance with his mom when the rest of the crowd is up dancing 

Post # 3
2034 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We skipped the parent dances altogether.

Post # 4
9913 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Let your Fiance have his mother-son dance if it’s important to him, but skip the dance for you.  It’s not that big of a deal!

Post # 5
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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bh2010 :  I am estranged from my mother and although my father and I are repairing our relationship, he wasn’t around when I was a child and I didn’t feel comfortable doing a father/daughter dance with him.

We just skipped the father/daughter and mother/son dances entirely.  I haven’t seen them done at many weddings lately so I don’t think that’s particularly unusual.  Dh did dance with his mother after our own dance, but it wasn’t a set thing.  

Post # 6
1600 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Just skip it. The dance doesn’t make you more married.

Post # 7
3390 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We didn’t have official parent dances with announcements or anyone watching, we just chose to dance with our parents during a regular song. Maybe you could do that so your FH and Mother-In-Law can still have those memories but without calling everyone’s attention to what’s happening. 

Post # 8
7846 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

My dad had passed away before I was married. I didn’t dance with anyone except Dh. No big deal. If he wants a mother son dance, he should have one,  but it doesn’t have to be “even” with you dancing with someone else, too.

Post # 9
5 posts

Hey there, I’m in a very similar predicament. No close male relatives (family of 5 total) and my father left when I was 14. I’m going to let my fiancé do his mother son dance if it’s important to him and call it a day 

Post # 10
63 posts
Worker bee

Both sets of our parents has passed so we are not even thinking about parent dances. But maybe if you’re really set on it you could do it with another family member (ie, brother, sister, close uncle, etc.)?

Post # 12
1858 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

Just skip the father daughter dance. If your fiance wants to do the mother son dance with everyone watching, let them do it, no big deal.

I was at a wedding there the bride danced with her father (it was choreographed and they were obviously experienced dancers) but there was no mother son dance. No one missed it.

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