(Closed) no mother/son dance?!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MiSsyK:  I say if he doesn’t want to do a mother/son dance then that’s his choice. My Fiance didn’t want to do a mother/son dance because he doesn’t want all the spotlight on him (he’s shy and he’s not that close with his mother either) but this is my ONE chance at getting a father/daughter dance with my dad so I am dancing with him. I don’t care if FI’s mom feels left out. She can take that up with him. I don’t like her anyway. Besides, this dance is still fairly new so I don’t think no one is going to be looking for it.

Post # 4
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think there is anything wrong with him not wanting to dance with his mom. And you don’t have to then have a parents dance if you don’t want to. Just do the father/daughter dance and have fun 🙂

Post # 5
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3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MiSsyK:  I am doing a father/daughter dance and my Fiance is not doing a mother/son dance. They were never really that close, and his mom is in pretty bad shape-health wise, I don’t think she’d physically be able to do a 2 minute slow dance with him. So we told our DJ we are skipping it.. but if at the last second they want it they’ll be able to. I think it’s fine they’re not doing it, there’s no law that he has to.

Post # 6
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MiSsyK:  My Fiance does not want a mother/son dance either, but I am having a father/daughter dance. He hasnt told his mom yet and I doubt she will even notice but I am hoping it doesnt upset her. He just doesnt really like that kind of stuff cause he says his mother annoys him and she will be crying and he doesnt want to deal with it. lol We will see how it goes…

Post # 7
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think he should talk to his mom about it.  If she’s okay not doing it then great he doesn’t have to but honestly I think he should suck it up if it means a lot to her (which it probably does!).  I don’t think it will look bad if you do your father/daughter dance and he doesn’t do one though. 

Post # 9
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can still have a father/daughter without having a mother/son. It’s totally ok…just make sure you Future Mother-In-Law is ok with it–or you can offer to dance with her!

Post # 11
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Just don’t have a mother/son dance. There’s nothing that says he has to. Let HIM tell her… or just don’t mention it at all and she’ll get the idea.

Post # 12
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We didn’t do any first dances other than our first dance as a married couple.

Nobody cared.

A couple people actually said they were glad, because they are usually bored to death during that part of the reception.

Post # 13
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10367 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@MiSsyK:  Nope, his mom, his problem. I think he should have to tell her.

Post # 14
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MiSsyK: I really think he needs to have this conversation with his mother.  I definitely wouldn’t do it for him.

Post # 15
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5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MiSsyK:  My fiance doesnt want to do it either cause he thinks its corny…thats his choice and I could care less either way

Post # 16
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MiSsyK:  Hmm, I’d say have him have the chat with her. He can say he’s barely getting over his fear of dancing to dance with you, and doesn’t want to prolong the stress. If y’all aren’t close (as far as in-laws go) I don’t think it would make sense for you to dance with her instead. I would dance with my Future Mother-In-Law in a heartbeat, but it’s a different type of relationship from what it sounds like.

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