(Closed) No one acknowledging Save the Dates?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
8007 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

The STD doesn’t require a confirmation of receipt or anything. I’m sure people did receive them and now know when your wedding will be, which is their whole purpose. They probably did think the Save-The-Date Cards were cute but didn’t see the need to tell you.

Post # 4
8721 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

It sucks but……….


Other people will never care as much about your wedding and its trimmings as you do.

Post # 5
8163 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

randee95:  Hm, I don’t believe I’ve ever acknowledged a save the date. Mentally, I’ll think “oh, cute” but to me, it’s mainly utilitarian. It serves a purpose, which is to tell me when you’re getting married so I can plan for it. It has never occured to me to call someone up (or text, whatever) and compliment them on it. Try not to be sad or take it personally. I’m sure everyone thought to themselves how cute the card was and is excited about the wedding, but I imagine a lot of people feel like I do — a save the date is a one-way communication that doesn’t require explicit acknowledgment. Congratulations!

Post # 6
1847 posts
Buzzing bee

randee95:  I agree with craigslistgirl, all your guests probably have them, know when your wedding is and think they are cute. 

I wouldn’t comment on a save the date unless the person hand delivered it to me /gave it to me when I saw them. I might say something along the lines of “ooooh how exciting, these are so cute” but I wouldn’t go out of my way to contact someone to inform them I had received a save the date. 

In your own words, I think your being silly ๐Ÿ˜›

Post # 7
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

Would never have occurred to me to say anything until I got married. Now I make a point of texting the bride when I receive one and let her know that I got it and that I think it is cute. Sometimes it’s those little things that make wedding planning bearable when you’re in the midst of a planning-induced-breakdown ๐Ÿ˜‰

It really does suck but when you send out your invites and everyone starts to get excited as the wedding gets closer, you’ll get lots more feedback from people and you won’t feel down about this any more.

Post # 8
1144 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Oh girl, make sure you learn this lesson right now or you will be in for a world of hurt come your wedding day;


Absolutelt no one cares about your wedding as much as you.


You pick beautiful Save-The-Date Cards trimmed with French silk lace borders, matte backgrounds with glossy embossed type and you see the most beautiful Save-The-Date Cards ever; They get it in the mail, slap a magnet over it, and then forget about it until the invite comes.


Dont get your feelings hurt, make sure you get this now before you get disappointed by people’s reactions to your meticulously selected center pieces, color coordinated decor, even the amount of people who RSVP, because at the end of the day they do care, but not really THAT much.

Post # 10
1321 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

randee95:  I understand how you feel. My parents, grandma, and aunt were really excited and called us right away, but no one else acknowledged them at all. We heard nothing from FI’s parents, family, or any of our friends.

Post # 12
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

randee95:  I spent a lot of time and money on mine and found basically no one cared. Unfortunately, it is just the way things are!

Post # 13
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

What would they say? “Hey, got the Save the Date. Um. Gonna save the date. Okay, bye!”

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Post # 14
731 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

randee95:  We only had about 10 (?) people say something or take pics of them lol 

Post # 15
3 posts
  • Wedding: September 2015

randee95:  I’m really worried now! I agonised for weeks over which Save the dates to pick, I’ll be so upset if nobody acknowledges them!! ๐Ÿ™

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