(Closed) No one else is excited about our baby

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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340 posts
Helper bee

That is really unfortunate. I would feel sad too. I feel as though our society doesn’t have priorities strait. Having a baby and a family is much more important than anything else. They probably are just jealous because they aren’t married with children or they can’t understand since they aren’t at that stage yet. At least your friends, family and husband are excited 🙂 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! Really happy for you! I do agree with your husband that it doesn’t matter what others think; no matter what, this is a beautiful time for you and your little family! Do your parents have other grandkids? With you just being married, they may be just adjusting. I’m sure they are thrilled! Hope you have a geat pregnancy! I still have some time before we TTC–cannot wait! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

@caritas:  Sorry you’re not having the desired response! If you’re in the 20’s age group a lot of us don’t really get it. I say this because I would have a hard time knowing what to do with a friend’s baby announcement. 

Don’t feel bad. It’s just the age bracket. I’m not into babies so I just tell people to name the kid after me when they tell me they are making one. Later on into the pregnancy I think you’ll get a more rallied response. It makes it more ‘real’ for people the closer you get.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry 🙁 

However, I know we don’t know each other but I am excited for you and your husbands baby! What a joy and blessing!!!!! Keep up the high spirits &

Don’t let them get you down 😉

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way about something so important. It really sucks when you’re thrilled about something but everyone else is sick of hearing it (or just plain don’t care).

Just my two cents though – maybe these people (especially your colleagues) aren’t too excited for you because they feel that, once you have a baby, they won’t really see you anymore (or the baby). I find it very difficult to get excited about co-workers’ children because, when most people take maternity leave from my career, they don’t tend to come back and, unless I’m really close with them, I’m probably never going to see their baby. Sure, when I first find out I’ll be happy for them, but it would be like getting excited about someone’s wedding when you’re not invited. Yeah, it’s cool they’ve reached this point in their lives, but it’s not really anything to do with me.
On the other hand, if it’s a close friend or a family member, then I couldn’t be happier! I may not always show it (because it is hard to be excited for someone else for nine whole months), but the feeling is there.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t know your friends or family, but I know mine. Their response to things like this is always underwhelming. It’s not that they aren’t excited, they just don’t want to seem like they are meddling or saying the wrong thing! Especially at 20 weeks you probably aren’t showing that much yet and there is still a ways to go.

I’m sure they’ll come around when the baby is here. You live with this excitement everyday, but it probably just isn’t “real” for them yet, if that makes sense.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@caritas:  You’re not alone. No one but my DH and I are excited about our baby that’s due in one week and when ever I talk about him to my family it seems like I’m just bothering them. It’s really upsetting. But as long as the two of you are over the moon that’s all that matters.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I want to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I know our families would call us stupid as we just got married, and I just graduated law school, so I can kind of relate although we aren’t actually pregnant. Maybe you and DH take a babymoon or even a staycation to celebrate between the two of you (if you get a break during your program)!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Just wanted to say girls are great:) Congratulations!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

There was a girl in our grad program that got pregnant this year. Hers was not planned, but everybody treatdd it like “Oh…that really sucks…are you dropping out, then?”. It’s just the age, and some people just don’t get excited about babies.

Sorry, hang in there and congrats 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Don’t you worry-as soon as that baby arrives, the families will be thrilled to see their little granddaughter and this will be all over.

🙂

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What a tough situation…I would be sad, too. Hopefully as your pregnancy progresses and things become more ‘real’, more people get on board and celebrate the little princess inside you!

And for what it’s worth, *I’m* SUPER EXCITED for you!!! (and a wee bit jealous….it will be a few months before DH and I will TTC but I’m ready now!) Keep us posted on your pregnancy 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

congratulations! what a bummer that other people aren’t expressing their excitement, but it’s such an exciting time!

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