(Closed) No one is coming to my wedding

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
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  • Post # 31
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Oh that makes more sense with the grandparents, those are decent reasons.  My grandparents are pretty old and they told me they wouldn’t be able to travel for my wedding so I planned my wedding in the same city as them so they could come.

    It would be crazy for people to decline a wedding because there is no meat in the dinner…….

    We weren’t going to meet our minimum spend either because a lot of people declined so what we did is have a midnight snack and added in another appetizer, which made it a better experience for people and then I was able to make my minimum spend!!!

    I think you can still have a wonderful wedding with a small number of people, just try to be positive and you will still have a great time!

    Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Sorry bee, but I wouldn’t attend a vegetarian wedding. I’m sure your intimate wedding will be beautiful and these are the people who love you, the ones you want there.  I wouldn’t fill seats with strangers.  But the same way I would provide a vegetarian option, I would expect a meat or fish option for the rest of us. 

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee

    Tbh I think anyone who says they wouldn’t attend because of the menu is a bit ridiculous. A wedding isn’t about food it’s about the couple. I’m sorry this is happening, it must just be terrible luck! But I’m sure you will enjoy your day as an intimate affair. At the end of the day the wedding is about you and your fiance not about the guests (so long as they have a decent time!) it will still be an amazing time. 

    Post # 35
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    teddserberry :  I’m incredibly curious. How does a one year old decide to be vegetarian?

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Well I don’t appreciate being called ridiculous but I’ve lived my while life in the SF Bay Area with friends who are vegetarian, vegan, pescatarians, whatever. And I still wouldn’t attend. But you do you.

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

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    teddserberry :  oh interesting. As a parent that would frustrate me too. I guess you just knew.

    It’s tough that no one’s coming to your wedding. I think you should take the advice from others here and embrace it and make it the best intimate wedding you can. 

    Post # 39
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

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    karen12 :  But it is ridiculous. Offering a vegetarian option at wedding is polite because some people don’t eat meat at all. You still eat non-meat food so what is the big deal with not eating meat for one meal? You would seriously care about that more than celebrating your friend or family member’s wedding? That’s just seems extremely self-absorbed to me.

    Post # 40
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    Newbee

    Sounds like the same thing that happened to me except im having a destination wedding in Florida. I planned to elope but everyone said nooooo, you can’t do that. So I decided to settle and have a destiantion wedding in florida. Everyone was all for it and now a month before the wedding people are backing out like crazy. Two of my best friends aren’t coming and now one of my other friends backed out after ignoring me for a month and I finally asked. 

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee

    The vegetarian menu is odd, but did the invites specify that it was a meatless wedding? 

    Post # 42
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    Blushing bee

    Anyone who decides not to attend your wedding because they won’t get to eat meat for ONE meal on ONE day in their ENTIRE LIVES is not a person worth having at your wedding.

    I’m sorry that only 14 people are coming, but on the bright side, those 14 people love you and care about you guys enough to not let something as inconsequential as a vegetarian stop them from attending.

    Please enjoy your day with these lovely people, and take note of the people with flimsy excuses – I’m a big believer in “treat people the way they treat you”, so if you have people ditching you because of your menu, you are now free to ditch them in the future for whatever reason! Enjoy your wedding!

    Post # 43
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    Blushing bee

    Also, I’d like to reassure you that the vegetarian menu is not “odd”. I’m South Asian, and most weddings I attend have a vegetarian menu due to religious restrictions. I also know plenty of vegetarians and non-vegetarians, and none of them would “not attend” something as big as their friend’s fricking WEDDING due to a vegetarian menu.

    Post # 44
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I’m vegan, at 99% of the weddings I attend there is very little, if anything, I can eat. Doesn’t matter, I bring some granola bars and other snacks in my purse. I can’t imagine turning down a wedding because of the menu, if you really need some salami just stick it in your purse! 

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    Oh Bee I’m sure you’ll still have a beautiful wedding! If it was due to the veggie things then that’s nuts and your guests are barking, I think you’ve just had bad luck. 

    I’m sure you can work with your venues to reposition things etc to make it still look awesome. 

    So many people, including me, regret not having more time to spend with their guests on their wedding day so it’s lovely you’ll be able to do that x

     

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