No one is coming to my wedding

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
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  • Post # 61
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    1703 posts
    Bumble bee

    teddserberry :  

    i am sorry your wedding turnout isn’t what you were expecting/hoping for, but I would focus on the guests who ARE coming! Personally, I would never decide to attend or not attend a wedding based on what is being served as the meal. I don’t think I ever knew what was being served until it was in front of me. 

    Your wedding will be amazing, and with 14 people, you can really focus and spend time with everyone there! I am sure it will be fabulous!! Congrats and enjoy!!

    Post # 62
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    IF people aren’t coming bc of your menu that’s really crappy.  I would never NOT go to someone’s wedding bc of the food they are serving.  A wedding is not about the food, imo.  And if that’s the real reason to not come, I wouldn’t want them there anyways. 

    Post # 64
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    653 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    teddserberry :  It is fathers day weekend.  Maybe people are travelling to see family.

    Post # 65
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    Well, if I lived near your province in Canada, I’d love to be a guest at your vegetarian wedding. I’ve been to two and I ate off the plates of the cranky oldsters at my tables who wouldn’t touch their tofu steaks and nut pies. 

    I like just about all foods and think picky eaters are pretty much the most annoying people in the world, like on a par with people who talk loudly in movie theaters. Just try something new! It won’t kill you and you may even like it. 

    Anyways, I had a high decline rate and ended up with a 30-person wedding when the room minimum was 50. We got a top shelf open bar, added a bagillion dessert stations including cookies, petit fours, jellies, a chocolate fountain… just went all out on everything.

    We also had the bandwidth to perfect the seating chart based on guests’ personal interests, ask everyone what songs they wanted to hear during the reception and make a custom playlist, and even have guests vote on the cake flavor when Darling Husband and I were arguing over it (DH won!! It was for the better… that cake was amazing). At the wedding, we invited the entire wedding to the rehearsal dinner and after party the next day. People said it was the best wedding ever because of that.

    Small weddings rock! I’m sure yours will be great!

    Post # 66
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I honestly think a smaller wedding is sweeter, and you can have more quality time with your guests.  I’m sure the closest friends and family members will be there with you for this very meaningful event.  I will invite about 30 people, and I only expect half of them to come anyways. We will have a wedding with similar size and we’ll have fun! 🙂

    Post # 67
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    You said, “now I’m determined to have to best wedding ever for the 14 guests who are coming! “

     

    I think you are forgetting this is a day for you and your future spouse. :]

    Post # 69
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    teddserberry :  oh! That’s good I suppose! I guess people are just kind of flaky. 

    Also, what the heck, I can’t believe anyone actually refuse to go and celebrate a friend’s wedding because they can’t bear to not have meat in one meal of their life. That’s unbelievable. 

    Post # 71
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    1316 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Edit: just saw the time stamp. how did it go?!

    Post # 72
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    498 posts
    Helper bee

    this is no big deal. i attended a wedding with around 50 people, the couple were rich and could afford more. but they preferred a lavish exclusive wedding. so they SPOILED us.

    so i would say, upgrade everything if you can and spend the same amount you were going to, but make it into a luxury exclusive event. then instead of being a sad turnout story, those folks will think you chose them as exclusive select group of friends to benefit from your wedding

    EDIT: Just saw the above- omg how did it go? I think its because it was a vegan wedding

    Post # 73
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    22 posts
    Newbee

    Only a few came to my wedding since it was in New Year’s eve.  It was amazing and we had fun, whoever didn’t come surely wasn’t missed. The guests were able to take home extra food and drinks and 20 years after the event, everyone still talks about how beautiful it was and how much fun they had. Don’t dwell on those who wont go, enjoy the day and celebrate with those who want to share on your happiness. 

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