(Closed) No one is coming to the wedding

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
986 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hear you.  We have 35 yeses out of 105.   Only have of the people need to travel.  Its certainly disappointing.  I wish I had just had the wedding I wanted for just us.   Forget family, they suck.

Post # 78
2484 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

times are hard my dear girl =[

I am super sorry for you.

i feel your pain resversed-

my sister lives  HI so I told her I would pay for 1/2 her ticket ( thats 1/4 of my SUPER tiny 2K ) and buy her dress if she would do the other 250 and she wouldn’t/couldn’t.

So yeah it kinda sucks but… some people just can’t. I couldn’t go to someones wedding right now not only beacuse of money but school and my  dogs. – for some people its not just the plain ticket- its a baby sitter. taking time off work. etc.

just keep your head up!

Post # 79
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You need to concentrate on having a nice shower with people who show up and the same for the Destination Wedding – your wedding is not the priority for people, accept it and move on…I had a friend who had a Destination Wedding in Jamaica whose ENTIRE family bailed out because they couldn’t afford it, so it was just her and her Darling Husband, but she said it was the best time, they had each other! That’s what counts.

Post # 80
779 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

A lot of people are saying just to get over it, celebrate the 25 who are coming, but.. I’m kind of on your side! I would feel the same way, I think.This is why I opted out of a destination wedding, even though it sounded so beautiful! I would be frustrated while going to that Bridal Shower. People made no effort for you! I understand it sucks, but I would go anyway, just grin and bare it. It might be hard, but, just do it, because otherwise it’ll look like you’re upset, and people will just get more upset at you.

Saying that though, it’s your wedding day! You shouldn’t have to grin and bare anything! Or have people being upset at you. But hey, those 25 people that are going, you know they 100% have your back and love you. Better to have few close friends, than 200 not so close friends. Try to enjoy your day and your planning process! You only get to do this once!!

But think of the plus side; the less people that come, the less people you have to feed! 😀

Post # 81
1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I also would not be able to attend I couldn’t afford that also thats a lot of holidays for me that would be 48hrs for a week.  Your family clearly loves you they just may not be able to afford that.  Maybe you could throw a reception at home when you get back and you will be able to see how many people love and support the 2 of you.

Post # 82
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think if your family and freinds really considered you and your wedding insignificant, they wouldn’t come to your bridal shower either.

That being said, they are going to your bridal shower….. Which means the only reason they aren’t attending is the fact that you’re having a Destination Wedding.

Personally, I find that a lot of people plan Destination Wedding without realistically thinking about the fact that many people will not be able to afford to come. Even if they are going on other vacations, they may have been planned in advance, or gotten a last minute deal that made the trip really inexpensive. (My friend just did a last min. trip to vegas for a total of $300.00, flights and everything). Maybe the other trips were significantly less expensive than the trip to your wedding.

I know it sucks these people will not be able to attend your wedding, even with a year’s notice to “save”, sometimes it’s just not possible.


Just a side note: I do understand what you’re going through…. Fiance and I were having a destination wedding, it was planned, location was picked… until we found out that ALL FIL’S would not be able to come unless we paid for them all (8+ people!!!!), and many of my bridesmaids wouldn’t be able to make it either, unless we paid for them (8 more people), then really, how could we pay for his fam and then tell mine to pay for themselves (8+ more people). At that point we would be paying for 24 guests + ourselves to fly there, and stay there, and then give them money for food…. It just wasn’t going to happen…. so we had to change the location and do a local wedding.

Thats the problem with Destination Wedding weddings, but you’re very lucky you’re having so many people there already!!! If I had continued and done my Destination Wedding and not paid for anyone, I wouldve had 4 people there…. maybe 8, none of which would’ve been my bridal party.


Smile, and enjoy your bridal shower.

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