Post # 31
RSVPs! This is the one area I am really afraid of. It seems like I can control almost everything but I cant control the RSVPs. Some of the people I may be sure will come may end up saying no. I am bracing myself for this. Aaaaahhhhh! Im scared!
Post # 32
Wait til the deadline then do the follow up telephone calls, people find it harder to refuse a happy person asking them directly!
Post # 33
I had friends who were DEFINITELY coming that I asked about their RSVPs. I got the response “Its not due for another week or so”. Sometimes I think people see the RSVP date and go with that. Unfortunately its out of your control 🙁 People view RSVPs very differently as to how soon they should respond. Heck, for half my relatives who weren’t coming they didn’t send back an RSVP, they just told the one person they knew who was coming to tell me they weren’t. It just happens. You can’t be too offended.
Post # 34
I think when your deadline comes you are out of choices. You will need to start calling people to confirm, or enlist a bridesmaid or family member to help you do it. I don’t think you should take it personally. I think like one poster mentioned, people are lazy, they have busy lives and often wait until the last minute or wait to be chased down. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about your wedding or that they don’t care about you. I’d suggest taking it all in stride. It’s not uncommon for brides to deal with this.
Post # 35
The majority of my people RSVP on time. Oct 22nd was cut off date. Some didn’t mostly family. Reception is RSVP only so- I wrote this on facebook:
If bride sends you wedding invitation “with RSVP card in it”, It’s your job to send it back “ON TIME”. Bride doesn’t get it “ON TIME”, don’t bother coming to reception… THE END
You should see how many text messages, phone calls, and inbox messages I got apolozing for not send their card back… they were busy I was told….um, yeah right and that why you saw a facebook message and responded in less than 5 minutes of it being posted. You could try that worked for me today….word of mouth got around and now I have all the missing RSVP names. haha Facebook to the rescue.
I feel like I am the bride, in your case you are… its not the brides job to call people. How inconsiderate of them not to respond.
Post # 36
@MuchGreater: haha that’s funny! I posted a couple status’ on FB, one saying “week and a half left for RSVP’s” which got me 1 rsvp…and the other saying “one week left” which got me 3 rsvps. Still not enough. lol We now have 50 people on our RSVP list including parents and bridal party. We have a bunch of RSVP’s missing, mostly from family as well and “close” friends. ugh. and there is 5 days left. I’m hoping more emails will come in since I’ve gotten 2 so far after posting, but I myself am not making calls, I don’t have time. I will Facebook some ppl for answers, but I will have my mom call my family since I don’t even talk to them, which she said she would do. But still. I feel that if they don’t have the respect to RSVP, given a month to do so, they don’t deserve to come and eat free food, IMO.
Post # 37
I know the same thing is happening to me. My mom called some of her friends and they actually said that they didn’t “even think of” rsvp’ing. And I included stamped/addressed response envelopes.
so i woudn’t worry about people not responding. i’d worry about people self-inviting grown children who you haven’t seen in decades!