Post # 1
We are down to 14 days until I have to be moved out of my place and into my FIs and we’re barely speaking to each other right now. We have a very strong relationship, but this move is causing us to bicker non-stop. He keeps complaining that I am too emotional, and I’m extremely upset at the glacial pace at which he is packing his stuff.
I know that I love him, but right now I feel like I’ve committed to something that is really freaking me out. I just keep hoping that we can survive the next two weeks (it’s only two weeks, right?). We were together five years before engagement and we regularly have a very strong relationship. Going into this we both kept saying to each other that we knew that this wasn’t going to be a fun month and that this was going to be hard, but I never knew it was going to be this hard.
I jsut needed to vent, thanks.
Post # 3
No 2 ways about it… MOVING SUCKS
Probably one of the biggest stressors in a relationship.
Post # 4
@renwoman: I’m sorry to hear you’re going through a hard time. Changing circumstances can sometimes be really hard in a relationship but it sounds like you both love each other and at the end of the day, if you love each other enough, you’ll make it work. Any change can be difficult, moving in together is huge and you will both need to adjust, and you’ll both do it in different ways. All you can do is stick together, do anything you can to make things easier for each other and you’ll figure it out, before long it will be normal.
Post # 5
Honestly when my husband (fiancé at the time) moved from Canada to Europe I probably told him 100 times I couldn’t do it. We fought literally until we got on the plane and then for 2 weeks after. I even looked at flights back home because I was seriously fed up and done.
I know now it’s hard, but it gets better
Post # 6
This is why everyone says the first year is the hardest. The first year of living together is TOUGH! I remember the first day we moved in together, we were both questioning our decision because we were SO stressed.
Getting used to someones habits, being around one person all the time with no space of your own, having to make compromises over decor and what to eat and who will cook and who will wash up, the toilet seat. oh my god, so many things.
4 years in and we still bicker about things. But it’s all good 🙂 You’ll get there! x
Post # 7
We had a tough time when we moved in together too, but it honestly does get better!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If everything else is normally good then I would chalk it up to moving in together. It’s a big thing to move in together and moving itself is ridiculously stressful. Maybe set aside a night in the next week or two for a regular date night and don’t discuss the move at all that night.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Stay strong, lady. Sometimes, even knowing that a certain period of time will be difficult, you still feel a bit unprepared for just how hard the reality is. I agree with a PP’s suggestion to try and carve out some time together where there is no discussion of moving or wedding stuff. Just cuddle a lot, laugh together, and re-connect. It’s good for the soul. 🙂
Post # 10
renwoman: Moving is definitely stressful.
My FI was beside me when I read your post and he said “moving wasn’t that stressful when we did it.” My FI must have been hit in the head recently! Moving was definitely stressful for us.
My FI is a procrastinator and I packed up most of his stuff when he moved in with me and again I packed most of our house when we bought our house this summer.
After the moving is done your relationship will get back to normal, and it gets better.
Post # 11
@renwoman: My SO and I NEVER EVER EVER fight but moving made us bicker like crazy! I actually had a melt down just after moving and said I was moving out! Just breathe. It really does get a lot better once you’re unpacked!
Post # 12
We’ve been together nearly 10 years, have lived together for 5+, and are currently planning a cross-country move–even after all this time together this move is hugely stressful! Moving is expensive, time consuming and annoying. Especially if this is your first time negotiating the combining of all your stuff and compromising on surprising things. When my now-husband moved into my place we had a huge fight about how to store the dishes. For real. Then I was thoroughly disgusted to learn he wanted to buy canned vegetables instead of fresh or frozen. Thankfully, time smoothes these things out 🙂