(Closed) No one seems happy for us…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think maybe you just need to have a little patience. No one gets excited in the beginning but it does happen. People just have a hard time being excited about something so far away. For me, it was about 5-6 months out when my family and friends actually started being interested in it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m going through the same thing, except it’s with my own family. My mother hates my FH and has had nothing to do with anything wedding related. My BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor don’t really seem interested, but that part’s ok considering both of them are very busy.

I’m sorry I can’t offer any advice, especially not with the dresses issue. My girls are wearing their own dresses.

I can only say that maybe when the wedding gets closer, they may seem a little more interested and excited. I’m an August 2012 bride myself and I’m holding onto the fact that I have 16 months left to go, which seems like a long time for everyone else but us, the brides.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think because your wedding is over a year off…it’s tough for the girls to get excited for you.  August 2012 is a long way off, especially if it’s not YOUR wedding.  I think you should give them time, as the date approaches hopefully they’ll be more excited. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww I am sorry, we will be excited for you here though!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mrs.W2012: I understand. Two of my 4 BMs dropped out and are no longer speaking to me, so that was a nice chunk of drama served up to me within the first few months of my engagement.

My FIL’s really like me and my Future Mother-In-Law has been more helpful and supportive than my own family. I too feel like there are lots of people who just don’t want me to get married, like my mom, stepdad and grandparents. They’ve all made that pretty clear.

But I won’t jack your thread : )Just thought I’d let you know that I understand.

And of course! The ladies on the Bee will all be excited for you and with you! There will always be someone with opinions and advice : )

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you really need to keep in mind how far away your wedding is. In most cases I don’t think anyone is super excited so far before it’s happening except for the people actually getting married! I definitely wouldn’t assume they don’t think you should get married, it just seems very very far away to those who are not actually planning like the bride and groom! I wouldn’t even worry about the BM/MOH stuff until closer to time that you’ll be looking for their dresses, which it’s definitely too early, you still have nearly a year until that!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mrs.W2012: That’s really touching about your Future Father-In-Law. I almost teared up myself reading it.

Believe me, I totally understand. I had the whole thing envisioned, how my parents would react and everyone would be excited. All my parent’s said were, “Well.” Since then, my mom keeps bringing up my ex boyfriend. A friend of mine asked her about my FH’s and my anniversary a while ago. My mom told her that she couldn’t remember our anniversay, but she remembered mine and my ex’s. I really hope my mom gets over my ex, I have, so I have no idea why she won’t. My mom has barely had anything to say about my engagement or my wedding, other than criticizing my choice of stone for my engagement ring, the fact that she doesn’t like anything about my FH and that I’m probably making a huge mistake.

I don’t really expect anyone else to be excited about my wedding. I can’t expect them too. It’s over a year away, but I do sometimes wish my family was supportive and involved and that I had someone IRL to talk to about all the emotional drama that surrounds my wedding. I really don’t care about talking centerpieces or whether I want yellow or goldenrod in my color scheme right now.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Mrs.W2012:  I know what you mean about people not being excited.  We’re having about a 21 month engagement, so it took my family and friends a long time to get excited.  My mom was the worst though.  She never wanted to talk about wedding stuff.  Now that we’re less than a year away, things are much better.  So maybe once it gets a little closer, things will change, and they’ll be more excited about everything.

Try to keep your head up!  I bet in just a few months, everyone will start getting excited about your wedding.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Mrs.W2012: Maybe they will. You can always PM me though if you need to.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are excited through the whole planning process.. but i think for the people in the wedding party they get more excited for you as the time gets closer.

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