Post # 1
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Worker bee
I am super excited about getting married! I’m excited to do all the DIY stuff, the decorating, the baking…but honestly, I feel super overhelmed. I’m getting married in a month and a half. I’ve never been a creative person but I wanted to make my wedding more personal and decorate with things I’ve made, things from my back yard, etc…
I joined the military and moved away right out of high school so I haven’t been able to talk to my friends as much. I’m completely ok with moving around and all that jazz, but I’ve never had really close friends since high school. Naturally I picked Bridesmaids who were my closest friends in High School. They all seemed excited a year ago when I got engaged. It lasted for about 2 months — the texting ideas, emailing colors, etc… The wedding is so close and I’m finally doing all the tiny details and I’ve never really been the one to instigate talking about my wedding. I did it once at work and one of the guys said he didn’t really care and didn’t want to hear about it. So ever since then I’ve just kept everything to myself.
So anyways, now with the details I texted a couple ideas and facebooked a couple ideas to them and I barely get responses. I honestly just want to shoot ideas around and get their opinions but it seems like they have the “It’s your wedding, we’re just going to agree with you” mentality and it’s really frustrating. If I want something my way I’m not going to ask someone for their opinion.
I don’t know how to get a meaningful discussion about my wedding started. And I’m super excited and I really just want to talk about it! The only person I’ve actually talked to about it…is my fiance (poor poor guy). My Maid/Matron of Honor is the one most against getting married and I feel bad talking to her about it :/
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Don’t take it too seriously. Sometimes BM’s just doon’t want to hurt your feelings so they don’t answer at all.
Just keep calm and carry on with your planning.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
One of the things I’ve read on WB that stuck with me during the wedding process is… “No one cares more about your wedding than you”. Yes, as brides-to-be we want to share our ideas and want feedback but some people/friends/family just don’t feel the same way. Try not to take it personally, it’s just the way it is.
Use the WB for sharing your wedding plans and excitement about the flowers, cake or Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. We’re all here for each other and who else is more excited about weddings than someone whos either planning one or has had one!!
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@Ill Be Mrs B: i second this. no one else is really interested in talking at length about wedding details like colours etc, *particularly* if theyre not wedding planning themselves and havent done it before (if they are, theres a bit mroe enthusiasm for wedding talk)
it sounds like they tried to show enthusiasm last year, if only for 2 months. but now they dont want to bounce ideas about this centrepiece or that. this is a terrible analogy, but its the same as if someone wants to talk about a really boring hobby – like stamp collecting. and initially, youll make conversation about it because you care for the person. and then you start thinking…i really dont want to talk about this anymore. and you get a bit less responsive
now, i am in love with all things wedding-y. my wedding, your wedding, imaginery weddings…i can chat at length. because it interests me. but some of my friends totally dont want to talk about it (actually even my mum isnt that interested). thats why we love wedding bee! people who *want* to takl about wedding stuff and are *happy* to give opinions
why is your Maid/Matron of Honor against marriage? just curious
Post # 6
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82 posts
Worker bee
Thank you ladies for that! I’m just overall a very energetic and outgoing person so I really really am into this haha
My Maid/Matron of Honor isn’t against marriage for other people, it’s her own personal view that she’s not a “serious relationship” type person. So she’s against it for herself.
And I’ll definitely remember that quote 🙂 Thanks!
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I’m in the same boat! Totally understand…my poor fiance is just like uhhh pick whatever you like lol! I wish I had a close friend especially one who was getting married or is married to help! Keep your head up though, I’m sure it is going to be great!
The weddingbee has been awesome so far, especially the local boards! It is nice to see bees getting married in your area and sharing ideas – especially if they are getting married at the same venue 🙂
Post your dress, ring, centerpiece ideas, we love it 🙂
Post # 8
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Worker bee
@Tiffner: Thanks! Where do you post all that stuff? I’ll definitely check out local boards!
Post # 9
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308 posts
Helper bee
@UJSMCWG06: When you click on boards and then wedding related it should show all the topics. Dress, decor, ceremony, ring, reception – whatever interests you :).
I have started my own threads for when I was going dress shopping, or needed centerpiece ideas. (I needed all the help I could get) Or just read others and post your pictures! If you just want an opinion or can’t make up your mind the polls are great. They helped pick my wedding shoes!
For the local I just click boards, local, south and then S. Carolina or wherever you’re from or getting married 🙂
