No one wants to date a single mom

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2020 - North Carolina

The right one will come to you. I wasn’t really looking when I found my fiance. I my son had just turned 2 at the time and he had a 4 year old daughter that he had shared custody of. We now have a beautiful 1 yo daughter together and have full custody of his daughter. I think you’ll find the right one once you stop really looking.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It’s a bit of a reversal, but my Darling Husband was a single dad when we met (one daughter; he’s a widower so he was the sole caregiver). And yes, I was hesitant. I’ve never felt all that maternal, and I was really worried about stepping into this role with a girl who had already lost her mom and had to have mixed feelings about the whole thing. We took things really slow, and he was very protective of her heart; I didn’t meet her until we were four months into the exclusive stage. But I already loved him, and because of that I wanted to try to love her too. And now I really do adore her; she’s a wonderful person and I’m so glad to have her as part of my family. This CAN work. It just takes the right person, the right connection and lots of care and patience on everyone’s parts.

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

There was a thread here from someone who was a single mom in her 20s I believe, who met and married someone and the husband adopted her child.

It was a thread on adoption but just want to say that there are men out there who will not have any problems with dating single mothers.

Good luck and hope you find a great guy soon.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Yikes…i just turned 30. Didnt realize I was an old fogey. If I was single, I would date a 40 something year old easily, but that’s me. I would urge you to consider men with kids/divorced/older as they likely will be more open to dating someone with a child. 

Post # 21
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Newbee

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Post # 23
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Busy bee

zoebunbun :  I am a woman, currently going through a separation that comes with: HPV genital warts (sorry not sorry for sharing), OCD, depression, chronic constipation and many other issues. I have had above said issues for many years. I’ve been married once, proposed to three times. THOSE things are baggage. Having beautiful children is a blessing. Please get out of here. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

zoebunbun :  literally every human being I’ve met has come with at least one of those three things. And single parents meet and marry people who take them seriously every day. Stop your nonsense.

Post # 25
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Newbee

zoebunbun :  not sure if troll or serious but you can f*** right off with that attitude. 

OP I’m a 25 yr old single mama too and wasn’t having any trouble meeting men and having fwb/no strings sort of relationships but I wanted the real deal. It took me close to 3 years to find my now SO and tbh I think it was complete luck!

He just met my 3 yr old last week and it was just so amazing! There are so many success stories of single parents meeting their soulmate but it takes time. I went through a phase of thinking I’d be single forever (ie Bridget Jones spinster style). I second previous posters who suggested proper dating websites vs apps- though I’ve met some really good guys on Bumble before. 

I also found that it depends on which social circle you run with. I never would’ve found someone in my social circle who would have been accepting of a child so I had to look outside the box. Like you I never tried hiding the fact that I’m a mum and I think that’s important so that you attract family men rather than players. Sounds to me like you’re doing everything I did- now you just have to be patient (easy to say I know)….

Best of luck mama!

Post # 26
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Busy bee

 

Don’t give up hope just yet. Keep at it. Use good quality sites. I understand these are paid sites, but for what you are looking for, especially since you will have a child involved, you need to pay for the quality of men. Now, there is no guarantee that all guys that pay for dating sites are ‘better’ men, but the sites themselves have better algorithms that do better with match-making than some other ones.

I know personally that there’s a guy’s profile out there on Match.com who is in his mid 20s, is looking for a serious relationship, and has stated exclusively, “if you have a child, that’s okay too. I love children and hopefully we can expand our family one day.” He looks alright too. Slender, decent corporate job, doesn’t smoke, etc.

Point of sharing that ad with you is that there ARE men out there who will meet your criteria. It will just take you MUCH LONGER than if your situation was different.

Post # 27
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Newbee

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Post # 29
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Busy bee

zoebunbun :  btw when your husband/future husband dumps you for being a terrible human being leaving you on your ass with young kids (feel sorry for them) I hope it works out for you. Mark my words-that will happen. 

Post # 30
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

zoebunbun :  I never had issue finding a man when my daughter was like 4 .. I had a car ok job my own place but I wasn’t a baller or anything like that 

I personally believe if a 25 yr old woman is having issues finding a man self reflection is in order …true self reflection of what else may be keeping men away 

 

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