Post # 1
Member
183 posts
Blushing bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Beach
Hi bees,
Maybe I’m getting ahead of myself here. My wedding is next October. So far I have a date, venue, semi-complete guest list, photographer and DJ.
When I go out with friends or see family, no one ever asks how the wedding planning is going, save for my MOH. The other members of the bridal party hardly ever ask or seem to want to talk about it. Perhaps it’s because it’s still almost 10 months away, that no one is excited yet? But I feel like there is still so much to do and I want to talk about it all! My fiancee can only help so much. Like when I say “we have to do X, Y and Z still”, he nonchalantly says “Yeah, we’ll get to it” and the conversation ends.
Am I getting too anxious here or do people really not care?
Post # 2
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5206 posts
Bee Keeper
Megbee617: People really don’t care… yet. You’ll hear it a million times – NO ONE CARES ABOUT YOUR WEDDING AS MUCH AS YOU DO! For the next 10 months your family and friends have their own lives to think about. Of course they’re happy for you, but the aspects of planning that don’t involve them aren’t really a concern right now. As the date gets closer you’ll have more inquiries. In the meantime don’t push the subject.
Post # 3
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2034 posts
Buzzing bee
Megbee617: I agree with PP, the hard truth is that your wedding is just not as important to other people as it is to you. If you need help with something, ask them to help.
Post # 4
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1051 posts
Bumble bee
Megbee617: people are prob focusing on the holidays. Lord knoqs the stores are. I’d keep it to a minimum until the year is over. I wouldn’t read too much into it
Post # 5
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6618 posts
Bee Keeper
Megbee617: I couldn’t tell from the post whether you mean they don’t bring it up, or that when you bring it up they try to change the subject. If it’s the first, it’s probably because it’s 10 months away and they have other things going on right now that are more important. If it’s the second, well… how often do you bring it up? Have you ever been around a pregnant lady and all she ever talks about is babies and her birth plan and how dark her areolas are? Is it possible they HAVE talked about the wedding and are ready to talk about something else? If you’re not bringing it up often, but they still try to change the subject when you do happen to bring it up, I don’t know — maybe come here more often? 
Post # 6
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2139 posts
Buzzing bee
Megbee617: Nobody ever asked how my wedding planning was going. Trust me, it’s better that way 🙂 Between that, and having the kind of pushy family that wants to organize the whole thing for you, it’s much better to have the kind of friends and family that just leave you to it 🙂
Oh and, by the way, my friends and family talked about my wedding AFTER the wedding – they kept going on about how amazing it was 🙂 It’s better that way around.
Post # 7
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722 posts
Busy bee
One more thought – why tell the world all about your wedding, let it be a surprise!
Post # 8
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3508 posts
Sugar bee
Megbee617: It’s the truth and it’s sad but no one cares about your wedding as much as you do. I started planning my wedding a year out and no one really asked about it. But once it’s like a month away or less people start to get excited.
Post # 9
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473 posts
Helper bee
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
Megbee617: My wedding is at the same time yours is. I find that the only people who ask “How is the wedding planning going?” are the people at work who don’t know me that well, but do know that I’m engaged. My family and friends (including the bridal party) don’t really ask about it either, and I wouldn’t expect them to until at least next spring. Honestly, it’s kind of a relief that no one is in my face about wedding planning. I’d prefer to just get everything done upfront without so many people kindly “offering” their opinions.
Of course I’m excited and want to talk about it too, but that’s what the Bee is for 🙂
Post # 9
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6554 posts
Bee Keeper
Megbee617: No one is going to care about your wedding as much as your and FI. No one is going to ask about the wedding, because they don’t care.
No one asked me about how the wedding planning is going except for my aunt, MIL and SIL.
Post # 11
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8704 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
People really dont care. That’s what wedding forums are for! How do you think many of us ended up here? LOL
I got married last year and I rarely talked about it unless people asked. Thankfully my mom was ridiculously (a bit too much!) excited. Now my best friend is getting married next year and I dread her calls because EVERY SINGLE CALL is only her talking about her wedding and it drives me insane!
Post # 12
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5206 posts
Bee Keeper
Megbee617: I’d also like to add that sharing all the details kind of spoils things for when the big day arrives. Don’t you want people to be wowed instead of saying “yeah, I knew she picked those centerpieces, those appetizers, put those songs on her must play list, etc…”
Post # 13
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9375 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
Well hey, we do! We’ll chat about every last stupid detail 24/7. I feel like after the initial buzz wears off people aren’t excited again till closer to the date.
Post # 14
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183 posts
Blushing bee
- Wedding: September 2015 - Beach
Daisy_Mae: Sorry, should have been more clear. I NEVER bring up wedding planning to friends and family (I don’t want to be THAT bride, plus I live a full life and there’s more than just the wedding going on). But on the other hand, no one really asks either.
Post # 15
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355 posts
Helper bee
just echoing what everyone else has said – no-one will ever care as much about your wedding as you do!!
The Bee is an amazing place to vent, get feedback – in general to speak to people who WILL respond and who do care (but for very different reasons!!)
Also, you’re a year out… most people will barely bat an eyelid yet anyway. I only started getting ‘how’s it going’ comments a couple of months out, when we sent out our invitations 🙂
