(Closed) No one will ever care about your wedding as much as you do

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That is so great thanks for posting the advice.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Excellent advice!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Exactly! 

And no one should care about it as much as you.  How would we feel if we were expected to spend a year in a state of excitement, constantly asking about and doing a lot of time consuming help with the birthday planning of our mothers? Yes weddings are once in a lifetime but there are a ton of once in a life time events.

If someone likes parties and/or weddings or for some other reason is happy to be really involved – great – but it should not be a requirement to show how much they love the bride. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

So true! Cry

My mother-in-law says she does love to look at our pictures on-line from time to time though.  Smile

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

while i definitely agree with this, i still think our friends and family should realize that a wedding is an important event to us. my main issue is with my friends. yes, i know, my wedding isn’t the most important thing in their life. i don’t expect it to be. what i do expect is for them to know that right now it’s one of the most important things in my life, and for them to do something about that. like ask me how planning is going, or act excited for me once in a while. i know why they’re acting like this, they’re bitter about their own relationships that aren’t going anywhere. and i’ll be harsh and say i don’t care! i’ll be there for them when they need me, and they need to be there for me now when i need them. that’s what friends do. or that’s what they’re supposed to do.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Well said!!

No one ever commented on our Save-The-Date Cards.
No one commented on the wedding website.
No one commented on my DIY invites.
No one brought the invites WITH them to use!  (WHA??)
No one threw me a bridal shower.
No one called to see how planning was going.
No one commented on my dress until the day of the wedding.

In fact, no one said anything to me at all.  My mom told me lots of compliments that were thrown out, but I never heard any of them firsthand.  I think a lot of brides think that getting engaged is a huge deal to anyone but themselves…it’s really not, except maybe to the parents.  And a lot of brides are angry that someone isn’t patting them on the back every step of the way, and telling them what great choices they are making, or what a good job they’ve done of planning.  They won’t.  Get over it now, or be disappointed.

That’s why I always laugh when someone posts that another friend or family member got engaged and “took the wind out of their sails” or “stole their thunder.”  There just isn’t any thunder beyond the INITIAL moment people find out.  You get the hour you announce it, and the wedding DAY.  Everything else in between is really kinda lost by others who are busy leading their own lives.  Such a sad truth.  I was SO excited when my Maid/Matron of Honor told me she was engaged!  Because we could plan TOGETHER and we were excited FOR each other.  Unless you have someone else who really is just as excited as you are, it’s just bad form to expect everyone to care so much.  Wish I would have figured that out BEFORE the wedding, LOL.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

completely agree with you all!!! great post 😀

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree! It’s very true.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Great post.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

This is a great post. I’m not in the same boat as I actually find it annoying when people obsess over my wedding and ask about every little detail, but everything said above is so true! When I was working on my web site the other night I actually found myself obsessing over a stupid detail and I had to stop myself and remind myself that nobody cares!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Great post! That being said, I am SO SO SO lucky! I have the best friends and family in the world!! So I can not complain at all about lack of support or interest in our wedding.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Say it ain’t so Sprague! Just kidding :).

It’s hard to remember that not everyone in my life is as excited about this day as I am. Thanks for the reminder!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

What a good perspective.  Even the groom doesn’t usually care as much as we do!

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