- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
I was married 6 months ago
I see so many posts from people who are hurt because friends, family, wedding party are not as “into” the wedding and you wished
I went thru this too.
A word to the wise: Your wedding is not as big of a deal to others as it is to you
Sound snotty and caddy? Maybe but it’s not meant to be…it’s the truth. For me…realizing this helped me a lot…ok maybe just a little, but it helped 🙂
I had a VERY hard time. I had a mother isn’t into weedings and hates “Cheesy” stuff. I have a wedding party who were not very involved and often did not seem as excited about the wedding as I would havdhoped.
I think it’s best to just realize that “your wedding is a big deal to YOU’ and maybe this will help you not get your feelings hurt
Sometimes we are upset because we are dissapointed. So maybe it’s just best to prepare yourself.
I sent out STD that I was so proud of, not a SINGLE PERSON called or emailed to comment on them. I was laughed at MANY times by family memebers for being “obsessed with my wedding” This and SO MANY other things really hurt my feelings. I felt so misunderstood and not supported.
I guess I just wanted to give you all my advice: Just realize and accept this and try to not let it get to you
Our wedding is the biggest thing ever to us! It’s exciting and amazing and all of that. It’s all we can think of or talk about.But we need to remeber that other people have thier own lives and no one is ever going to be as excited about your wedding as you are. Try to not get hurt. It doesn’t mean that people don’t care about you or your wedding. It’s just that you need a little perspective to realize that your wedding is a huge deal to YOU
If you are one of the lucky ones who is blessed with freinds and family who are super into your wedding…then lucky you! But MANY of us are not in the boat. Instead of crying and trying to figure out how to get people more involved, I think it’s best to just realize that you are not alone. Your wedding is exciting to you and SO MANY PEOPLE do not understand.
That is what WB is for. This is the place to come where you can get all that good stuff that you are lacking from others. Come here to get your weddings needs met and try to not judge others too harshly for not being as engaged as you had hoped.
It may seem sometimes when you look online like everyone ELSE has supportive people in thier lives. That is NOT the case. I think that was the hardest part for me. It seemed like I was the only one without all these great people.
This isn’t the case. You are not alone. Try to keep perspective on everything. 🙂