(Closed) No OOT bags – would you be offended?

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Honestly, I don’t think the general public really knows about Out of Town bags. I think it’s something that’s just now becoming popular and if you don’t want to do them, don’t have tme to do them, or can’t afford to do them….it will be just fine. I don’t think it’s an important part of the wedding experience…more of an extra. I think you will be just fine without them.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Ok, I would not be offended….but I would definitely notice.  Out of Town bags are important to me (as the bride and as the guest)  But, I’ve seen a lot fo girls on here who don’t even think twice about foregoing them!  I think it’s a very nice gesture if you have the time, but if it causes you that much more stress–nix it.

Post # 5
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I actually agree with JamaicaBride. I have never been to a destination wedding so I can’t speak from experience. I do think they are nice to have but not a necessity. My parents have gone to plenty of weddings and there was only 1 that they attended that they received an Out of Town bag. They were surprised to receive it and thought it was a cool idea which got me interested in making some for our wedding guests since almost half were Out of Town.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Before reading the weddingbee, I had never heard of an Out of Town bag.  Even after reading here, I would not expect or be offended with not receiving one.  I am also having a destination wedding and not doing Out of Town bags.  I am 100% sure my guests would much rather I provide them with additional entertainment than spend the money on a bag of “stuff”.  I figure my guests will already be bringing their own maps, sunscreen, etc., etc., etc., and don’t need me to provide it.

Post # 7
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1982 posts
Buzzing bee

Ugh, your sister’s attitude bothers me. I say forgo them if you’re stressed, or else go to Michaels and pick up some paper bags, go by the visitors center and pick up some maps, and throw in some little baggies of goldfish or whatever and a couple of bottles of water, maybe a couple of postcards and hand them out at a pre-wedding event. If you’re not having one… just ditch them.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think it is really a big deal if you don’t do them. How destination are we talking? If it’s really a place where people might not have a clue about what to do in the area other than the wedding, then maybe even something small like a folder of information and a thank you card would be nice. If your guests are coming just for the wedding and just for a night, then I don’t think they are necessary.

What about another family member? Have you asked anyone else what they think? Like an aunt or your mom?

I told myself no DIY projects in the last two months up to the wedding. You definitely need to relax and not worry. Your wedding will be your vacation too! At the least, the hotel staff should be able to direct any guest to things to do.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Sidenote, I’m super surprised you girls hadn’t really heard of Out of Town bags prior to getting into wedding planning.  Makes me wonder if it’s a location-thing.  In my area, it’s somewhat expected.  I think a lot of details are like that.  If it’s not common in your area or in your family, then I say “forget ’em!”

Post # 10
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1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

So your sister is expecting you to do something extra but refusing to help you?

Out of Town bags are unnecessary.  I think as long as you can supply everyone a map of the area so they know where to find toilets, Tylenol, and beaches, they’re fine.  People know how to pack their own bottled water and soaps and whatever pointless stuff is supposed to go in an Out of Town bag.

Just my two cents.  🙂

Post # 11
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1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the other girls.  I went to one wedding where I was given Out of Town bags, where it was a nice surprise, it wasn’t expected.  I think if you didn’t give them out, no one would be disappointed.  And, also never heard of this being a “popular” until I started reading wedding blogs.

Post # 12
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

While I have never attended a destination wedding, I have been an Out of Town guest many times. Never once heard of or seen an Out of Town bag before hearing about them on WB. Can’t say that I or anyone else has been offended by not receiving one, nor can I imagine why anyone would be offended.

Post # 13
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@VirginiaMarie – I found during the wedding planning process there were a heck of a lot of things mentioned in the hive that I never saw at a wedding or even heard of. It may be a location thing but I actually don’t know.

 

 

Post # 14
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@LaborofLove

You said, “…go to Michaels and pick up some paper bags, go by the visitors center and pick up some maps, and throw in some little baggies of goldfish or whatever and a couple of bottles of water, maybe a couple of postcards…”

I am not picking on you at all when I say this ;), but if I got something like that as a wedding guest, I would totally be thinking, wth?  LOL.  It’s just that – as an adult  – I have never been handed a paper bag (even a pretty patterned one) with a map, crackers, and bottled water inside of it for any reason.  I dunno…maybe I live a sheltered life? 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Roddy— YEAH!  I think so.  I am finding this too.  But I guess that’s to be expected.  All different brides, from all different families, states, and walks of life.  Out of Town bags are probably just one of those things…

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Honestly I never understood why people do them. I always throw away the maps, and I look up things to do and places to go before I get there. I say no one would be offended and if they are thats too bad for them! You don’t need the added stress, enjoy this time!

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