Post # 32
I put offended, but I wouldn’t be offended. I just would not take it seriously. I have used evites for other events (bachelorette party, surprise birthday parties). But other than that, I think a wedding needs a card in hand.
Post # 33
We did e-only but we designed them ourselves.
The older guests all RSVP’d through the website or email. No one got offended and most of them are coming.
Post # 34
I didn’t read all the responses, but what I was taught was that e-vites shouldn’t be used for a wedding UNLESS the wedding is 100% eco-friendly. Also, I think e-vites may throw off the older generation.
Post # 35
I agree with you.
I think it takes the formality out of the wedding for sure! But I still wouldn’t show up in jeans. I would probably question how casual it was going to be though, and if it was an evening event, I would be confused.
Post # 36
Personally I wouldn’t care if I got an e-vite. The absolute truth of the matter is, except for some family members, the invitations despite how much money you spent on them will end up in the bin. I think it also depends on the family, I know that my family expected me to send paper invitations so that was not an option to me.
So if it saves the couple some money I’m okay with that =)
Post # 37
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
I wouldn’t care if I get an e-vite but you have to take something into consideration. Do you have a lot of older people coming? I have a couple of older grandparents coming and I guarantee you not only would they be offended they didn’t get a paper invitation, but they would have NO CLUE how to even read an invitation online (one of them doesn’t even have a computer!)
Post # 38
I’m glad to hear some of you have done non-paper invites and have gotten good responses- thank you so much for the supplier suggestions. Our guests are pretty web savvy, but not so facebook connected, so I think if we go the e-route, we’d stick to email. Cool idea on facebook, though!
Really interesting and helpful responses- thanks to all for your suggestions and your honesty! I was wondering if the years had softened people on this issue, but clearly not quite yet 🙂
Post # 39
I’m tactile, so the act of touching a book or a letter or an invitation adds a lot of its specialness for me. An e-vite still gives me all the information I need, but not that special element of touching and unfolding and reading and exploring. That said, my reaction to an e-vite is about on par with my reaction to a budget invitation route, like a post card. I would say if plush invites aren’t in your budget, go for the e-vite and don’t let anyone pressure you into mailing something out.
Ultimately, while I perfere receiving a fancy pants paper invite, I would NEVER judge a couple poorly for their choice to not blow money on it. It’s your money, it’s your party, and ultimately, the format of your invitations is not going to have ANY influence on the quality of the celebration, or the marriage you’re celebrating.
Post # 40
@SleepyBee99: I would probably think it was cheap and would not take it very seriously. I know that’s stupid, especially as a bride knowing there are so many options, but I feel like a wedding deserves a little more formality than an e-vite. Just my thoughts, please do what suits you and yours, ignore the haters!
Post # 41
I think it really depends on the situation- we’re eloping and throwing a party when we get back so I feel like e-RSVPs or evites would be okay. However, if you’re having a black-tie formal wedding I think that regular invites are a bit more appropriate. We’re actually sending party invitations on the back of our wedding announcements!
Post # 42
I love the idea of it, and I think we’ll eventually trend in that direction, but personally I think people just aren’t there yet. We’re doing paper invitations from Minted (within our budget and we love them) but also have a wedding app with the option to RSVP through there. We haven’t even turned on that feature. Probably 25% of our guests would be lost and honestly it’s just easier with the paper. Someday though!
Post # 43
I’m having a small wedding…I’m doing paper invites because I know a fair amount of family members on both sides, older folks, don’t have access to a computer or have a computer/smart phone. I don’t think it’s fair to them. My father is all up with the times, but doesn’t have a computer, but wouldn’t RSVP on his smart phone. I think he’d get pissed off if I did something like rsvps online.
Post # 44
@SleepyBee99: Personally, I think evites for weddings are tacky. Less formal and less important things I don’t mind them but for something like a wedding I feel like it needs a formal invite. Tacky may be the wrong word, but I definitely think they’re inappropriate for weddings. (also – with spam filters and how easy it is to change email addresses these days it would be harder to keep track of them and make sure people receieved them).
Post # 45
I wouldn’t be offended myself, but I would not do it myself. I have some guests coming that do not have a computer, nor do they know how to use one. I think it may be a little tacky. A wedding should at least deserve a paper invite.
Post # 46
I wanna second a PP that Paperless Post is awesome. Some of the evites are BEAUTIFUL. Most of their designs can be done in paper form and are pretty expensive. I’m gonna use Paperless Post for save-the-dates, if not the invitations themselves.