Post # 1
I have been worrying for some time about TTC because I lack any patience when it comes to children..
We regularly babysit my niece (5months) and nephew (4). I can’t cope with my lack of patience. The baby must be teething and screamed and screamed non stop all day and I could feel myself tensing up, in the end I carefully sat her on the floor in a safe place and stood on the other side of the room for a few moments to calm down. My nephew was tearing round our house shouting and being a normal little boy. It just drove me mad. I’m not a bad person and I deeply love my neice/nephew but I can’t cope with my lack of patience/frustration.
If I can’t cope for one day on plenty of sleep, how will I cope on no sleep and my own child? I don’t want to be an angry mum 🙁
anyone else feel like this, or am I just a bad person?
Post # 3
@lucyh2bee: I deal with this everyday as I have a son. My patience is very very thin, even with my husband. It’s a choice. Properly assessing yourself is an important step!
Post # 4
It’s ok to have thin patience, and it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or you shouldn’t be a mom! You handled the situation as best you could by putting the child somewhere safe and taking a quick break. This is probably the best way to handle yourself when you’re about to blow your top. Majority of people would probably just scream at the kid and throw a fit themselves.
Biggest thing here is, it is my understanding that when they are your own children, your patience seems to be much better. But even so, patience can be learned! I’m not a patient or tolerant person but I know I can be a good mom and will be.
Post # 5
You’re not a bad person, and this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be a mom! I am a nanny, and I’m usually a very patient person, but sometimes kids will just send you over the edge. It is good that you knew your limits and decided to step back for a breather. That’s a lot better than what someone who is actually a bad person would do! You’ll probably hear this over and over, but with your own kids it will be a bit different. Don’t get me wrong, you will get frustrated and impatient, but you will have more control over behavioral issues in the older child. As for the baby don’t think that new moms don’t ever get super mad about the baby crying constantly, and don’t believe any mother who says she’s never been frustrated with her baby!