- 7 years ago
Hello bees! I’m posting under a different name since I’m active on the boards and the hubs has asked that we keep our concerns underwraps. I actually feel a little bad posting since so many wonderful ladies here are trying to get pregnant and we’re kind of hoping we’re not.
So, the hubs and I have just recently got married though we’ve been together for almost a decade. We’re both 2008 college graduates (me in 3 years, him in 5) but he’s just starting his career in an unreliable field and I’m trying to get into graduate school. Right now we’re living with my parents and I’m taking classes. Throughout our relaitonship we’ve used many different forms of birth control but right now are only using condoms. We use them PERFECTLY, checking them first, using them every.single.time and checking them afterwards so although they’re only 98% effective we’ve never been concerned.
This month, I’m thinking there’s reason to be concerned. Except for a few wonky cycles when I was coming off birth control, my period has been perfectly regular, spotting on the 27th day and bleeding on the 28th. Today is day 31, in a couple hours it’ll be day 32, and no sign of AF. Not even a tiny spot, believe me, we’re checking every 20 minutes.
While we both REALLY want a baby, we know that it would be financially irresponsible to have one now. Especially if I’m able to get into the grad school I want, a baby will be damn near impossible to take care of and we don’t have our own place or nearly enough money saved up.
I’ve been noticing a collection of symptoms that I’ve been ignoring until now and I wanted to get everyone’s opinion. Unfortunately, most pregnancy symptoms can also be symptoms of mensturation so it’s difficult to tell.
– Sore breasts, I attributed it to the fact that I’m extremely busty and they’ve been sore before
– Sore back, see above, large breasts always make for a sore back
– Fatigue, I’ve been exhausted lately but I figured it must be stress
– Heart burn, i never get heart burn but I didn’t think twice about it
– Head aches, also blamed on stress
– I have to pee ALL the time, but I have always had a tiny bladder so I didn’t notice the frequency increasing
– Bloating, blamed on impending period
– Really hungry, also blamed on impending period
– And now, late period
What do you ladies think? The hubs and I were going to wait a couple more days but I think we might say screw it and test tomorrow. If we’re pregnant it will be really cruel irony since we never had unprotected sex, we want to be parents so badly, we shouldn’t be parents right now, and we didn’t even get to have fun baby dancing. Our familes would also be VERY unsupportive since they want me to go to grad school. Some ruder family members have gone so far as to be thousands of dollars against us that we’ll get pregnant during our first year of marriage and it would kill me to prove them right when we haven’t been irresponsible.