- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
So I have been a reader/poster for a few years, but I am seeking some anonymity for this issue so I made a new account. Sorry for this long post, but I am feeling stuck and hopeless.
Backstory: Went on BCP in 2004 in part to prevent pregnancy but also to regulate very irregular periods. They never really evened out to a 28 day cycle or really anything near that growing up but I was never too concerned until college when I started getting periods that were months apart. I attributed it to stress and weight gain and my doc at the time didn’t seem to concerned (should have seen the red flag here and investigated the cause rather than masking it, but oh well).
Over the years I have wondered if I have PCOS (from reading magazine articles and such) and even brought it up once or twice with my current doc (ob/gyn). The first time I mentioned it was because I have a hard time losing weight despite eating very healthy and exercising regularly. I was not obese but just on the cusp of being overweight by BMI standards. She mentioned doing tests in the future but said that they were pointless at that time (another red flag).
Darling Husband and I were married a little over a year ago but have been together eight years. We have been so patient in the years we have been together to wait until we have a house and stable jobs and be married at least a year before even thinking about getting pregnant. But now that point is pretty much just around the corner.
In the past I mentioned to Darling Husband once or twice that I have a history of irregular periods so it might be a good idea for me to go off BCP early in order to see how things go. So we went off about 3.5 months ago and I have yet to have a period. I read TCOYF and several other books to prep. I have been charting since I came off the pills, but it looks like I am having no ovulation. I have had low level cramping on and off. Today, for example, is cramp central. But no spotting, no nothing. We have quit using condoms and I have taken a pregnancy test or two and we are not pregnant (although I pretty much knew this from charting).
We finally decided that I should call my OB/GYN this week to talk about the situation. (As a side note, I have never been too impressed with this woman, but not to the point that I would find someone else). I called their office yesterday and was told that the doc would be out but that the assistant could relay the message and then call me today. Got the call today and basically I was told that I needed to wait two to three more months! She gave me the line about “oh it takes a while for things to regulate after the hormones are removed” blah blah. I questioned this because at my appt last year I was told that because I have a history of periods being almost six months apart that I could come in after three months if I had no period. I told her that I have been charting and I don’t see any signs of ovulating but she completely blew this off. I asked if there was anything else I could try to do to stimulate the period and she said “no, nothing” which I know is crap because according to several books I have been reading changing up exercise routines and trying a lower sugar diet have been known to help. Then, this lady got irritated at me because she said that the doc told me last year that I “shouldn’t even think about having unprotected pregnancy without having a rubella test.” Umm, what? I have zero recollection of this being mentioned.
So overall I am confused/irritated for several reasons including: 1) if she had done the tests for PCOS several years ago instead of now we would be ahead of the game, 2) she specifically told me last year that after three months with no period I could come in and 3) how come no one mentioned this rubella thing before?
I need advice if this sounds like a reasonable situation or if I should think about switching clinics. It not like we are trying to get pregnant right now, but things are obviously not right and I would at least like to know what my options are. If there are things I could do right now to make it so that I am more easily able to get pregnant in a few months, why wait? Why not be proactive?
Also, has anyone ever heard of getting tested for measles immunity before getting pregnant? How have I never heard about this? If I am not immune apparently I would have to wait another month before even trying to get pregnant or do anything. Ugh.