(Closed) No Personal Photography during Ceremony *VENT/Help*

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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bassbee:  Eugh so sorry that you have to deal with this. What is wrong with some people?? I don’t get the obsession to document every single little thing with photos. And it’s completely selfish because they’re focused on what THEY want, as opposed as what YOU want for your special day. It’s not as if you’re asking them not to take photos for the entire event, just for the ceremony.

We’re having an unplugged ceremony – it’s on the website, the programmes, the ceremony sign and will be announced by the priest. And if someone chooses to ignore all of this and still takes photos, I won’t stop the ceremony but I will enjoy mocking their apparent lack of reading and comprehension skills 

 

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missjz:  People should chew with their mouths closed – it’s just good manners, just like it would be good manners and courtesy to heed the not unreasonable requests of the couple on their wedding day. One respects the wishes of the homeowner when one is a guest at someone else’s home – same goes for being a guest at someone’s wedding.

Post # 17
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

The weddings I’ve been to have had the MC or officiant ask people to please put away their recording devices and enjoy the wedding.  I think the best wording I heard was along the lines of “the bride and groom have asked that everyone please put away their cameras and phones during their wedding ceremony and please turn them ON during the reception!”  

I liked it because a) I felt you have to be a real dick to ignore the bride and groom on their big day and b) it told people that there would be plenty of time to take photos later,

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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onthefritz:  that’s a great idea. You worded that perfectly…. I’m going to have to steal.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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missoptimism:  thanks for that link. Exactly why I will have an unplugged wedding. ugh those people on their iPhones now a days in the aisle and everything! drives me crazy seeing everyone’s phones in the pics. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We are going unplugged for the ceremony and special dances; our photographer was thrilled when I told her.  We put a note on the website in two places, will be putting a line or two in the program, and have asked our officiant to make a brief, polite announcement before the processional begins.  Something that will help me deal with any potential naysayers (there haven’t been any yet!) is that our photographer gives us the full printing rights for our pictures – we basically get a flash drive with everything on it once she’s done with the post-processing.  We can share our pictures with everybody, so they don’t even need to take their own!  And we’re “setting them loose” during the reception, too, so it’s not like there’s a tech moratorium for the entire event.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

 

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missoptimism:  This post is wonderful! I’ll be honest, I never really saw the harm in allowing picture taking at a ceremony and I unfortunately am guilty of doing it. Not to the extent of jumping in front of the photographer but still. It’s a great point of view and to see the pictures that were ruined because of this is super helpful!

Post # 22
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Busy bee

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bassbee:  may I throw a bit of a spin on it? If no one takes iphone photos during your procession/ceremony/recession, you will not have any pictures of those moments until your photog is ready to release them to you. I can totally respect your want to have everyone unplugged during your wedding. However, during my wedding, my photog got all of the moments JUST before they actually happened.. And she got a really weird angle of us during our first kiss. If it weren’t for an uncle who was also capturing these moments, we would be pretty bummed out with our pictures. 

Do what you are most comfortable with, but keep in mind that most people really just want to have those moments to share with you and to look back on over the years. If you chose to allow people to take pics during your ceremony, maybe you can request them to stay in their place and allow the photog to do all the “hard” work. 

Congrats and best wishes! 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had an unplugged ceremony and it was the BEST idea ever! Not a single one of our pro pics has someone’s phone or camera held up, and no one is standing in the aisle or in their seats! We simply had our preacher announce before the ceremony that the bride and groom requested everyone shut off their phones and put their cameras away. Everyone respected our wishes. I can’t believe your Mother-In-Law had such a rude response..can Fiance handle it?

Post # 24
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Bumble bee

For my wedding, we had the officiant tell guests something like, “bride and groom hires a photographer to capture hiw the ceremony looks. You all are here to capture how it feels. Please put away your cameras and turn off your phones during the ceremony.”  Then she paused for a good long while, looking around the room to drive home the point. No one had their cameras out during the ceremony. 🙂

Post # 25
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Blushing bee

I have also decided to have an unplugged wedding. I have worked as a photographer and for a photography studio for many years and I can be pretty picky about my pictures. I have hired photographers to shoot my wedding and I know that they will do an amazing job! If I wanted a bunch of camera phone pictures, I would have skipped out on hiring someone and would have let my guests take my pictures… I have never understood the obsession with taking pictures with a phone or tablet anyway because they are never as good as something that can be taken on a professional camera. I understand that this is solely my opinion, but the quality of an image on a phone or tablet is simply not there– it doesn’t matter how many megapixs your camera phone is.

I understand where others are coming from when they say that you cannot control what others do, but if they know you only want the professionals taking pictures during the ceremony, they will be more likely to respect your wishes. And the only way they will know is if you announce it or have it posted for your guests to see.

I asked my Fiance a while back what he thought about having an unplugged ceremony and explained to him why I thought it was a good idea. I also showed him examples of what I DIDN’T want our wedding to look like. He agreed with me. I have looked on various photographer’s pages and websites and have found pictures like the blog that

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missoptimism: posted. This is NOT what I want my wedding to look like. I want to be able to see people’s faces, not their phones. I think the wedding should be about us and celebrating our marriage with our loved ones and not all of social media in the middle of the ceremony.

As a photographer, I would be irritated if a guest ruined a shot at a wedding when my clients had paid good money for quality pictures. As a bride, I would also be extremely upset if someone ruined my photographer’s pictures– which is why we decided to go unplugged.

I plan to have a sign as guests enter the ceremony and also plan to have it printed in the programs and will likely have the pastor mention it before the ceremony starts. We have invited mostly family, a few friends, and some people from each of our churches so I don’t think it will be a problem. After all, people should be respectful enough to do what we want since it is OUR wedding day.

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

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KDOS:  Where did you get your sign??

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I really had never thought about this too much before now.  FMIL and FI’s uncle are terrible at this- they step in front of anyone and everyone whenever they want. We are a year out, but I am definetly keeping these ideas in mind! 

Post # 28
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Helper bee

I’d be pissed at her response too! It’s your wish and it’s nothing out of the ordinary any more. In fact, imagine people getting up and taking pictures in the middle of the ceremony 20 years ago! Only people who were really interested and close to the couple would have even brought a camera, but now-thanks to iPhone etc-everyone thinks they are a photographer. I don’t even get the point-why does anyone want to take a blurry, far away pictures of the bride and groom. I say put up a sign and let the minister mention it again-your Future Mother-In-Law will only embarrass herself if she is the only one taking pics. 

Post # 29
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Sugar bee

I like this sign which my photog IG’d 

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We did this. We put the info on our RSVP website. Some people didn’t abide but I knew that would happen. Prepare yourself for people to disagree with you and do their own thing. That way when it happens you won’t get worked up. 

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