(Closed) No pets allowed

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That sounds like a tough situation, what does your Fiance say about it? I would have him talk to her. She should understand that the property is not pet friendly. Does she have a neighbor or friend who can watch the dog while she attends the wedding? I would hope that her sons wedding would be important enough of an occasion to find a solution…

Post # 4
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@novathecat:  She sounds insane. I love my pets, but I’m well aware they’re not welcome at weddings. If it’s not a service dog, she needs to get the hell over it. If she doesn’t come, so be it. Weddings bring out the worst in some people.

Post # 5
3778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have literally never heard of a guest bringing their dog to the wedding. I’ve seen dogs as ring bearers and whatnot, but never at a reception. 


I don’t see any reason she can’t put both dogs in the kennel. I’m quite the animal lover, so I do understand an attachment to one’s pets, but I also would never ask a bride, “Hey, my cat can come with me, right?” 


I think this is the most ridiculous request I’ve ever heard a guest make. I just can’t believe the gall of this woman. Sorry, I have nothing helpful to suggest.

Post # 6
6824 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Seriously she is putting a dog in front of her son? WTF thats kinda screwed up. …

Post # 8
6113 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I can’t believe she is being so crazy about this dog. The fact that she’s acting neurotic about this one but not the other is weird but whatever. Stick that little shit in the smallest bathroom (put everything in there away) in your house and be done with it. If it uses the bathroom in there at least it will be an easy cleanup for her.

Post # 10
1077 posts
Bumble bee

@novathecat:  This sounds like an issue that your Fiance should be dealing with, not you. Anytime she asks about it you should refer it to him and in turn he should say something like “If you are really willing to miss my Wedding so your dog doesn’t have to be alone for a few hours then I guess that’s just how it has to be”. She’s pushing it because she thinks you’ll cave to her. 

Post # 11
559 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

This is insanity.  Either she boards the dog or she doesn’t come to the wedding.  What kind of person makes their dog more important than their son’s wedding day?  It sounds like she’s hoping that if she pitches enough of a fit, you’ll let the family stay at yours free of charge, and she’ll be allowed to bring the dog to the ceremony.  And none of that is okay.


Make sure your Fiance is on board with this, and have him talk to his mother if she won’t listen to you.  You cannot be expected to keep the dog in your house unattended on your wedding day.  His mother needs to board both dogs, or get a dog sitter to come stay with the problem pup, or she’s just going to have to miss out on the wedding.  Period.  And I’d put my foot down about this one.  Weddings don’t include canine companions unless they’re service animals.

Post # 12
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Hahaha I’m about as “furmommy” as you can get with my dog, but just leave it at the freaking kennel with the other dog for company and they will be freaking fine. They even have those stupid pet “spa” places that charge like a 5-star hotel for the dogs of people like her.

Seriously I’m only hesitant to kennel my own dog for the honeymoon because he has escaped every boarding place we leave him at, and destroys every crate we ever leave him in. 

Post # 13
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Sassygrn:  I was thinking the same thing!  It’s her son’s wedding.  I guess it’s just too crazy for me to wrap my brain around.

Post # 14
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Your Future Mother-In-Law is a nutter.

I feel bad for your Fiance that his mom might not be there, but you can’t let her just have her way on this. It’s crazy.

Post # 15
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

She’s being crazy. Sounds like it’s time for a little tough love. Most people don’t make exceptions like this for CHILDREN, let alone animals. And at least kids sh*t in diapers.


Why isn’t your Fiance running interference here?!

I’d photocopy a copy of something from your venue saying no pets, attach a note saying that X person in your family is allergic to dogs, and a note saying you wish she could be there but you understand her predicament and you’ll miss her the day of.

If Fiance wants his mom there, he can step up and start handling this like a man instead of letting you be the hardass. That’s not really appropriate at all and doesn’t bode well for the two of you’s future dealings with these people.


Post # 16
7219 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@novathecat:  This is batshit insane. Your Fiance needs to deal with it. I’m a firm believer that everyone deals with their own insane mothers. Do NOT have the dog at your wedding. Do NOT have the dog at your house. You’re supposed to get ready for your wedding while worrying about stepping in the dog’s pee? Nope. Not an option. She can figure something out. 

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