Post # 1
My mom and basically everyone involved in my wedding is on an opposite coast, so I’ve been trying on dresses with my fiancee. We’ve generally been allowed to take tons of pics, then send to my mom, who wants to buy my dress for me. It’s so great to be able to get her involved and get her opinion, and really important to me.
I had picked my favorite so far, but wanted to try on just a couple of spring 2013 eden styles that just came in to a shop so we made the trip there today. I fell in love with an older style instead, and think it could rival my other favorite.
But…NO PHOTOS ALLOWED
They didn’t have much of a good reason, and were allowing brides to take photos after they purchased the dress, just not me to help me and my mom decide – not even on just that one.
I really loved the dress, but find photos have been so helpful for realizing when something looks truly good or not outside the heat of the moment.
I’m not sure what to do. How do I get the opinions of my girfriends and my mom? How do I decide if it really looks good or just felt nice compared to everything else at the time. We only ran into one other shop that didn’t allow photos, but the dresses were no good so it didn’t matter. This time, it could really make the difference.
Edited to add: I’m calling all the shops in the area that carry Eden, so far no one else has it. I’m feeling that option might not be possible at all. I also have to order ASAP.
Post # 3
Salons do not allow you to take photos until you purchase the gown because they want you to purchase it from thier business. They do not want the photos taken and have people make a replica gown. So you can search for it in a salon that does allow photos or find pics online to make the comparison
Post # 4
@nativedesires: What I don’t understand is – if there are photos online from Eden itself, then what difference does it make if I have photos of it on me?
And of course they don’t know this for sure, but it’s quite frustrating to meme having photos could make or break the sale for them.
Yeah, I can look up photos online. That is what they said too. But I can tell you, NONE of the dresses I have tried on look the same on me as on the model. The way it looks on the model is pretty useless to me. Anyhow, just venting about that!
Post # 5
I know it’s frustrating… but you could take the photo and shop for a better price. I know it looks different on you than the model, it’s unfortunate your family is far away. Can you post pics of the dresses that you are looking at one with you in it and the one on the model? Do you have any pics of dresses with the same sillouette as that may be helpful
Post # 6
Online images are photoshopped. That is not the “real” dress. That is not what the dress looks like. It has been altered to be “perfect” and appealing to the media driven “ideal” body type.
When you try on a dress, that’s the real thing. That’s what it looks like. It’s a lot easier to replicate than “fake” pictures (See: Photoshopped to hell and back).
That’s why salons do not allow you to take pictures until you put a down payment on a dress. Some salons do not care, but I understand why they would prohibit photography.
It’s just one of those things you just got to let roll off your back.
Post # 7
Any chance you can have a Skype videoconference or something of the sort? Would they allow that so your mom could see? I went to a store like that and there is no way in hell I would purchase a dress without my mom giving me some input. The store I went to took loads of pics of me with Justice of the Peace dresses on and if they oked it I can see no reason why others can’t. Is there any other dress you would be happy wearing?
Post # 8
I’ve managed to have people sneak pictures of me in salons where they don’t allow this. Just turn the sounds on the camera/phone off. But there are some that are way too tricky to do that in. The Skype suggestion is a good one!
Post # 9
Yeah, Skype may be a possibility. It’s a shame that Skype resolution isn’t great. I do have another dress I like that I may get, they are quite different from each other. I’m refraining from posting them both here at the moment because the photos are apples to oranges, also I already know which one the Bees will prefer based on traditional preferences, and it’s not the dress I have photos of!
I do have a couple of sneaked photos but they didn’t come out!
Post # 10
Oh what the heck, why not post them?
Here is my “default” Vera Wang White. I do really like it. I love that it is unique and different. I’m going for an outdoor daytime, old-world boho garden party? vibe, just don’t want to look overly greek mythology and I’m not sure what to do about my hair in this one – in general, I wanted to do down, maybe with a floral crown (would read waay to goddess!), but I think it looks better put up with this dress. With the beaded sash, not floral sash.
Here is the no-photos dress – Eden 2395. The website photo is so nondescript, barely shows the detail, and is white instead of the ivory I liked. (Edit: Wow, it came out huge, maybe you can see all that). You can’t see the etherealness, the point d’esprit on the chiffon, the delicate lacing. You can’t see how this would work for boho outdoor – but I could do the hair down and wavy, flower crown thing with it. This is a bit more PITA because of needing the length ordered custom for the lace. (I think the Bees will prefer this more traditional look).
Post # 11
I manage to sneak pictures. Turn the flash and noise off, and pretend to text facing a mirror 🙂
Post # 12
@lazy: Just go back to the shop and tell the bridal consultant that you don’t feel comfortable getting undressed in front of a stranger and that you will call her in once you’re in the dress. Then just snap a pic of the gown in the mirror once you’re alone. Just make sure you turn the flash and sound off of your phone before going into the shop. Also, you need to be crazy fast in case the consultant tries to sneak in the room. This is the method I used at a few stores, you won’t get the best pics but you will get an idea.
Post # 13
Both of those dresses are lovely, but so different. The Vera Wang is very elegant, a more mature choice I think. I think you could do soft waves (Veronica Lake, old Hollywood style) to one side (the strapless side), or else a 60s-inspired chignon up ‘do would look really classic too.
The Eden is a much more romantic, garden party sort of dress.
Post # 14
Is it carried by another bridal shop in your area? I would call around and find out. And if so, and if that shop allows you to take photos, I would go there. And I would buy from there if it’s your favorite, and write to the other bridal shop explaining why you didn’t buy from them.
Post # 15
I hate when salons don’t allow pics, mine didbecause when you go home and look through them you may feel differently or like how one photographs better. We brides are paying top dollar for pictures!
Post # 16
i love the eden dress! the lace is soo pretty!