Post # 17
I refused to try on dresses at stores that didn’t allow photos. I called ahead and asked when scheduling appts. Such a stupid rule and they try to put the blame on the designers. I’ve taken pics of the same designer gowns at the boutique I go to who does allow photos. I found my dream gown there, and now I can also look at 100 pics of me in it so I know it is the one.I don’t see how salons even get business that way, personally.
Post # 18
I like the Eden! But it’s just a matter of taste obviously. I hope you’re able to at least do a skype call or sneak in a picture!
Post # 19
Sometimes designers do “loaners.” I used to work at a salon and we used to do this for girls all the time. I’m not sure if Eden is that kind of designer – but if none of the salons in your area carry that exact dress ask them if they could get it in as a loaner. Usually this service is free (or they ask you pay for shipping.)
Or, go back to that original salon and sneak a picture. Take a friend who “doesn’t knwo the rules” and have her take them. Honestly, what is the salon going to say? Please hand over your camera and let me delete those? Nope. And honestly – if that salon is that strict I wouldn’t want to give them my business.
Post # 20
I’m personally not a huge fan of the VW, but that Eden one is amazing!! And I totally understand the importance of photos and wanting family to be a part of the decision process. 🙂
So sneak a photo!
Or bring a friend that hasn’t been there before, and have her snap one of you while you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. I had to do that at one place. They caught her, and told her no photos, but she simply said she didn’t know, and since I “wasn’t paying attention” I wasn’t faulted. They just gave me dirty looks. Haha.
Also. I refused to buy my dress from the salon that didn’t allow photos. My grandmother was in the hospital, and at that point, we weren’t sure if she would make it the few months it would take for my dress order to come in (luckily she made it, and she’s doing okay now!), and even after my father (who came with me) explained that to them, and how much we wanted my grandma to be a part of my dress decision since she may never get to see me in it….. they still were jerks about it.
Plus, this place wouldn’t even tell me the model name of the dresses I liked (the idea is that if the customer doesn’t know what dress it is, then she won’t be able to find it anywhere else, and she will HAVE to buy it from them!). Instead, I spent hours going through all of the designer’s dresses until I found the dress, just so I could get pics of it to show my grandma, and avoid giving these a**holes my money. (It’s the principle!! I was ticked that my grandma was almost not able to see me at ALL in my wedding gown!)
When I did purchase my gown, I made sure to write them a letter that they lost out on a $1500 purchase. But I’m thrilled with the salon I found instead… the woman who runs it is amazing. So things work out! 🙂
Post # 21
Also, will you be bringing a friend with you? My best friend came with me and had my phone with him. He had my phone on silent and took tons of pics because it looked like he was just texting his friends. The pics are not the best, but they are better than nothing and certainly are very helpful in making the decision.
Post # 22
I guess my question is: If the dress you love the most is the one you can’t photgraph, why isn’t “Mom, my dream dress can’t be photographed, here’s the stock photo, can I please have that one?” isn’t good enough for your mother.
Post # 23
PPs have given great ideas, and i don’t really have anymore but I just wanted to second that I really hate salons that don’t allow pictures. I was lucky that my Maid/Matron of Honor and family were able to travel up to try on my favorites, but I don’t know what I would have done if they were all the way across the country.
Post # 24
My mom already sent me a check. She trusts mydecision making. But, I want her to be able to be involved and give an opinion. Worse, I can’t really tell to be honest if I do really prefer that dress without photos. It’s just what has worked for me. I have had other favorites that I later realized had fatal flaws when I went back and looked at the photos.
I guess what this boils down to is that unless I can get some photos, I’m unlikely to be able to consider this dress further. I can go try it on again and see how I feel again in it, but without the camera perspective, I’m not sure I really know what I’m writing myselF into. Sadly, I’d pretty much have to buy it from this place because their prices are wholesale and significantly less than at other salons or online. So, I’d have to want to give them my business. Finally, this dress needs to be special ordered for the length of the lace, which makes me nervous that if something is slightly off, it will need expensive and time consuming alterations which I might not have the buffer for. Hmmmmm
PS: Why is my autocorrect so horrid on Wedding Bee?
Post # 25
Thanks for these ideas! I also really appreciate your giving the VW consideration. It is so different from what I think most Bees would aprove of, buy I’ve always wanted a simple, sophisticated, tall-looking dress.
I almost don’t know if the other one is only in the running because I’ve been looking at too many photos of weddigs lately! But it’s not poofy, still somewhat lean looking when the train isn’t flared out.
Post # 26
@lazy: I think both dresses are lovely, but it really sounds as though you have strong feelings about the Eden. If I were to choose a favorite based solely on the pictures you provided, I’d probably select the Eden.
I can definitely understand the need to have your mom present in some way (even if only via pictures, Skype, texts, etc.) during your dress shopping experience. I was very lucky … My mom flew in to stay with my fiance and I for a week recently so we could go dress shopping together. I’m very close with my mom despite the fact that she lives 1000+ miles away, and even though my fiance and I are covering 100% of the costs for the wedding, I wanted her input. I also wanted to share the experience with her (though this may have been more important to both of us because I’m an only child). I could never select a wedding gown without her input!
I was also lucky because of the 4 bridal shops I visited, all 4 allowed pictures. I too found it incredibly helpful when trying to make a decision. (Though I was still somewhat indecisive, even posting on the Bee for some advice!) Buying a wedding dress is a big decision … Typically you’re spending a lot of money, and you want to make sure you choose something you feel beautiful and amazing in for a day on which all eyes will be on you! I don’t have any tips on sneaking pictures since I didn’t have to worry about that, but I would definitely try to see if you could at least Skype or FaceTime with your mom (as others have mentioned) while you’re at the bridal shop. Explain to the consultant that you aren’t prepared to commit to a gown unless you get your mother’s approval … Hopefully if they know they will lose a sale if you can’t do this, they’ll be a little more accommodating. Hopefully!
Post # 27
If you lke sophisticated, flowy, tall-looking dress that VW looks astounding on you. I think the VW especially on you looks just amazing and I can’t see anything special on the Eden you like. Do keep in mind I”m partial to that style as opposed to the traditional poofy ballgown.That aside I think both dresses will look amazing on you so just make sure you get one that you truely like!
Post # 28
Thank you, I really appreciate your perspective! It’s tough finding like-minded ladies in the frilly world of princess wedding dresses. Dress #2 is more straight / non-poofy in person, but hey, that’s what photos are supposed to be for. But I’m glad to hear some approval of my “nontraditional” first choice. =)
Post # 29
If that is your dream dress go for it! Yes it is not traditional and some people might say that but in the end its YOU who will be looking at your pictures, and it is your Fiance who will truely see you. When I showed my dress to my mom she outright hated it, begged me to reconsider or wanted me to look at the other dresses in hopes I’d forget about it. I am lucky to have a wonderful Fiance who told me that I had a good head on my shoulder and that I was not a typical woman, that I don’t like poofy dresses and I would wear a dress that would show my beauty instead of showcasing the dress. My mom finally got around it (though she said it was suitable for a civil ceremony LOL) and you know what? Some guests might say its “not a wedding dress” but I know that years down the road I’ll look at my pictures and say “That is really me and I look beautiful” and my fiancee will look at me on our wedding day and say “this is truely her and she looks amazing.” And that… is all that matters =) Cheers!