Post # 32
I think that I will definitely have it be known in some way that I do not want flash photography during my ceremony. I’ve been to weddings where people have gotten up, distrupted things and gotten in the photogs way trying to take pictures. I think that that kind of behavior is far ruder than letting it be known that you do not want it happening.
I am planning to use the swags down the aisle.
Post # 33
It’s very rare that I go to a wedding where a guest does NOT stand up.
Honestly though, I can handle their flashes, that’s not what get’s me… I get mad at guests because they sit there for 5 min. getting crappy blurry/dark picture after picture. They get SO FOCUSED on their camera phone or point and shoot that they miss the ceremony.
Conversely, Even those who have decent skill and a nice camera miss what’s going on, because they’re watching it through the lens the whole time.
There is a big difference between witnessing a wedding through your camera and when you put it down and just be a part of what’s going on.
But ya, when guests get up and stand right in front of me, or go on the altar (yup, seen it!) it’s an issue more about respect and them BEING IN my picture than the flash :-0
Post # 34
I should add that I’ve been yelled at by a pastor before for using flash… when I didn’t. It was a cousin of the groom with a “nice camera.” I had to tell the pastor she wasn’t with me and I work alone… I’m not sure he believed me… lol
Post # 35
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
You should have the officiant make an announcement before the ceremony–it could be something like “please turn off your cell phones and refrain from flash photography.” People will respect it more if it’s announced out loud, and then you have no need for a sign!
Post # 36
Personally, I think it is pretty rude to take photos during a wedding ceremony. Sorry, honest opinion. Having sat through it, I find it very distracting as a guest to have the person in front of me standing or at all odd angles to get their photo. It also seems disrespectful to the content.
I think a note in the program or an announcement by the officiant will work.
Post # 38
For any ladies who are considering doing this, I think that it is a PERFECTLY reasonable request!! You paid a lot of money for this! Your guests should remember whose wedding it is. At my wedding we had people taking pictures BEHIND the photographer, and people kept looking at the disposable cameras that auntie was holding rather than the $5k camera my photographer was holding. I was pretty miffed and it did ruin a lot of the photos.
I would have your officiant make an announcement just before the procession starts down the aisle. Everyone will be seated and quiet and paying attention. And I wouldn’t limit it to flash photography, very few people will even use flash outside. But you still end up with a bunch of wedding photos of people taking pictures. Isn’t that why you pay the professional??
Post # 39
we put a note in our program saying that the church didn’t allow photos during the ceremony. everyone followed our request, which was nice as i got to see everyone’s face as i walked down the aisle, not their camera! just before the end, the priest made an announcement to ‘take our your cameras now.’ it worked well because our guests got photos of the first kiss and our recessional, but we got the more ‘sacred’ ceremony we wanted.
Post # 40
Here’s my take. By putting the sign up you are basically calling some of your guests (the ones who take pictures or have in the past) out on being rude. I see a couple of negative sides to this
– Inevitably some guests won’t see the sign and will take pictures. If they find out about the sign later they will likely feel embarrassed.
– Even some guests who do see the sign in advance might feel embarassed if they’ve taken pictures during weddings in the past which could make them feel defensive.
So I’d look at it like this – if you really really care about no one taking pictures then go with the sign. Maybe blame it on the location though. If you feel like some of your guests will be offended and that’s more important, then ditch the sign. Ultimately that gives you one less thing to have to worry about on the day of.
Post # 41
I’m a huge shutterbug, taking hundreds of photos at most events I attend, and it would never occur to me that it was acceptable to take a photograph during a wedding ceremony. I’ve seen it done many times, of course, and I was pretty surprised. Perhaps I have that perspective because I view weddings as religious ceremonies, with a sacred context that isn’t supposed to be disrupted as though it were a circus ring. I think the most tasteful way to express this might be in the programs rather than in a sign. Also, the fact that your ceremony is outdoors makes me wary that people would see a sign forbidding “flash photography” and think “Well that’s fine, it’s bright enough that I don’t need to use the flash” and will still be jumping up and leaning out snapping away. I’d just say “No photos during the ceremony please.”
Post # 42
We have the same preference but are going to have our officiant kindly state that we have a professional photographer and would prefer that no one else take pictures. I think it’s more tasteful than a sign and more likely than other methods to ensure that people actually know our preference on this matter.
Post # 43
@teaparty: My dad did something similar at my cousin’s wedding – he got behind the bridesmaid line trying to get pictures of the groom before the bride walked in, and got stuck back there for the entire ceremony because he thought it was more polite to stay than to scooch around the BMs and sit back down. She was ticked off because it ruined a ton of her shots!
OP: I think a line in the program or an announcement by your officiant is appropriate. I wouldn’t be offended at all as a guest!
Post # 44
I totally understand your point of view here. I am putting a note about it into our programs and having our officiant mention it before the ceremony begins (I am also going to have him remind everyone to turn off their cell phones). I just don’t want everyone taking pictures, I do not think that is too much to ask for at all. I do think a sign is a bit much though.
Post # 45
@KLP2010: “I think it’s really sad these days when I see guests whip out the camera phones and little tiny black friday sale point and shoots and focus and spend 5 minutes at a time to get a dark, blurry, barely recognizable image. They miss what’s being said and done.”
I totally agree.
Post # 46
I so get this!! My problem with guest taking pictures is the good shots that every bride wants are ruined but five different cell phones sticking up out of the pews. It’s not the flash for me, it’s the big picture.