(Closed) NO PLUS ONES.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If you have an empty seat just give it to her.  It will save you a lot of arguments with your soon to be husband.  It’s rude for the friend to assume he can bring someone but if your husband is sticking up for him is this a mountain you are willing to die on?

Post # 4
882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

beachbride1216: +1 

OP, is this one girl really worth this much negative time, energy, and arguments. Honestly, on your wedding day you will not even notice her. You will be so focused on your new hubby, and your family and friends, and all of the love and joy around you two—trust me. 

Just chalk it up as a good deed for your buddy, and don’t let this add to your stress of an already overwhelming time. Good luck and have fun! 

Post # 5
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Miss T-Rex:  I think with the stress of your wedding being 6 weeks away you’re allowing yourself to overthink things and the rational side of your brain has shut down. I know $100 is a LOT of money, but the fact of the matter remains that this issue is not worth the stress you’re causing yourself.

Think of it this way: All of this time and effort and energy you’re wasting fretting over this, is it worth it to save $100? Would you spend $100 for some peace of mind 6 weeks away from your wedding?

To me, the answer is simple. Yes I would. (Applying this to your situation… not trying to get into what ifs here)


Post # 6
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it depends on if other guests get a plus one.  I was in a wedding where my Fiance wasn’t invited (long story) due to their plus one policy and it caused a lot of tension between me and the bride.  If all your other guests gets a plus one, then your FI’s friend should get one too.

Post # 7
2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I too put my foot down on a few last minute guest list additions by my mom and sister but in the end it made me look like a crazy ‘zilla and hurt those I loved AND caused me a lot of stress and anger. They won I lost and I didn’t even notice those people at my wedding b/c it was all about me and my Darling Husband and our immediate family and friends who I spent my time with.

You might have to let this one go and let the buddy have a +1. It could be worse, much worse. A little goodwill and a peace offering of a +1 would appease the buddy and your Fiance and that’s better than pissing them both off so close to the wedding and in the process giving you added stress and possible guilt over the actions or things you might say in anger. Speaking from experience, it’s not worth it, let it go. Good luck and focus on you and Fiance, it will be the best day of your life!

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