(Closed) no present or even a card from some of our guests!!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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3282 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

@fluffed: I am absolutely sympathetic to those who may worry that gifts were lost or stolen. But the OP lost a lot of points calling her guests “lame” and complaining about the “small gifts”.

Yes, everyone is fighting their own battles………….but if you can’t handle opposing opinions on a little thing like this, a public internet board may not be the place for you.

Post # 48
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1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

OP, I totally get where you are coming from, although I don’t think there is much you can do. I would just keep track you who didn’t get you a gift, and when their wedding comes around, I would not go out of my way to get them a gift.

Although, wedding gifts are not mandatory, it has become customary. How many of you would show up to a wedding without a gift or a card? A card costs a dollar at the dollar store. 

Post # 49
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403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

This can’t be real.  If it is alls I can say is wow.  You basically just said that you got married to get presents.  That is not what a wedding is for.

Post # 50
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4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@hisgoosiegirl: cosigned.

It is also not unkind to be honest when someone asks a question. I go by the information the OP has given. Giving the OP puppies and rainbows and telling her sneaky ways to tell her guests they were “lame”, because she might have other issues, is a disservice to her and dishonest for me.

Her “battle” is with guests not giving her gifts. I gave my honest opinion. 

You (fluffed) are still free to give YOUR opinion to the OP.

Post # 51
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You can’t say anything to anyone about no card/gift without sounding like a brat so I think you should avoid that passive aggressive nonsense.  Deal with it and move on.

Post # 52
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666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

 your post comes across that way when you call guests of your wedding “lame” and that you are “upset and very dissapointed” 

Post # 53
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1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@coffeegal85: Just because I wouldn’t show up without something does not mean that I expect something from everybody. My Fiance and I were in a place financially two years ago that would have made a dollar store card almost impossible. 

Post # 55
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666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hisgoosiegirl: I agree with everything you said. and I would love to hear the outcome of the OP’s phone conversation with her lame guests lol 

Post # 56
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705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@RayKay:  I agree.  I wonder is she is really just trolling in here?

 

I have to say it cracks me up sometimes the threads I read on here.  People just assume that we are all gonna say “Oh how dare they!” at every thing some people chose to whine about on here. 

 

 

Sorry OP, you are not coming off as a humble, grateful person at all with your initial post and people are just calling you out on it. 

Post # 57
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4394 posts
Honey bee

@fluffed: this is one of my favorite quotes ever. But this is NOT a battle. This is an extremely petty waste of energy. Comparing this to that quote is doing it quite a disservice. 

Post # 58
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1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@FloretteLiz: I get that.  Paper and pen would work too….write a nice note or something.

Post # 59
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7555 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@fluffed: So you think it is kinder to mollicoddle someone and encourage them to do something disrespectful and petty and to come off materialistic and self centred?

Post # 60
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2969 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

aspasia475 You said everything I’m thinking.

We did not get cards or gifts from some of our guests and to be honest I didn’t even notice. The wedding time was so happy and so overwhelming and so busy and so amazing in so many ways I didn’t even notice half the stuff that went on, let alone gifts. 

OP, I think you need to remember what this time of your life is supposed to be about and let this go. Re-prioritize. 

Post # 61
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I personally just feel like maybe she didn’t say it the best way but are you really telling me that if multiple people showed up 2 ur wedding and everything and when you were going thru writing thank you notes you realized peoeple didn’t even give you a card you wouldn’t be disasppointed? call me selfish but it was a little disasppointing?? try to undertstand the OP instead of attacking. 

 

By The Way i am not saying tell her shes right b.c shes not she should not tell people shes upset theres no way thats okay to do that BUT we also don’t need to be rude about it asking her why she got married and all this other crazy stuff! lets be supportive (: we can be supportive and disagree at the same time! 

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