(Closed) No pressure…? I need advice!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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2893 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly, if it were me, I would tell him exactly what you just said. Let him know you aren’t bringing this up with the intentions of pressuring him or forcing him into a position he’s uncomfortable with. But let him know that circumstances are requiring you talk about it and figure out a plan because you aren’t comfortable with waiting another 5 years to get married. Discuss your options. Hear him out. Let him know it’s a unique situation and you need to know exactly how he feels about it since it’s coming up so soon. Keep an open mind. And make sure he keeps an open mind as well.

Unique sitations need unique conversations. Doesn’t make you ring crazy or nagging. It makes you mature. 🙂

Post # 4
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4126 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree with claireos, he needs to know how you feel.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Hmmm, I don’t think you need to rush and get married before you go to school. I have seen ladies on here talk about how they were able to plan a wedding while in school. I’ve had the same concerns because I work full time and am in grad school, with a schedule similar to what yours will be. I think when the time comes, you will either find the time or make the time. It may require you to take a semester off to plan, or get help from family and friends, or even hire a wedding planner. But it can be done.

That said, I think it’s still fair to let your SO know your concern. I would just watch how you phrase it, because I can see how he might take it as pressure. If he is on the same page then go for it! But I just don’t see law school being a reason why you must rush and get married. 

 

Post # 7
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1458 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I agree with the previous posters; I think that if you tell him, “I want to go to law school, and by the way, we have to be married before I go,” he’s going to think you’re trying to push him into marriage.

But I would also reconsider law school, in light of recent numbers…

http://www.slate.com/articles/business/moneybox/2010/10/a_case_of_supply_v_demand.html

http://management.fortune.cnn.com/2011/08/31/law-grads-take-their-job-frustrations-to-court/

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