(Closed) No Proposal For Christmas

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
5 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Take Heart. My Fiance and I dated for 8.5 years and I was in the same boat last Christmas. He kept saying “trust your man” and sure enough, last March he flew to Paris to surprise me while I was on a girl’s trip! He designed the ring and said that dragged on and on, but he knew he wanted it to be a complete surprise. Some men don’t want to do it on a holiday so you won’t see it coming so prehaps your guy is the same. Don’t be afraid to talk to him about your concerns though, because it’s important you don’t bottle it up. Hope that helps!

Post # 19
389 posts
Helper bee

@MsAloe:  I completely understand where you are coming from. I’ve been dating my SO for 7 years now, and for the past two years, we have talked about marriage. Everyone thought he would propose around Christmas. I even let myself believe it because I thought for sure my waiting would be over soon. Like you, I tried desperately not to get my hopes up, but I couldn’t help myself. I woke up in the middle of the night on Christmas eve knowing deep down it wasn’t going to happen. And of course, I was very disappointed on Christmas day. I ended up breaking down and crying about after we left his parents house. Mainly because my family was expecting it, and I didn’t know how to face them. I feel so heartbroken. He had told me months ago that it would happen by the end of 2013, and he admitted today that he wasn’t planning to propose on New Years either. He tells me it will happen soon, but I don’t know what to believe about his timelines anymore. He tells me that he loves me so much and does want to marry me… and I love him so much too. So much that I don’t want to leave him. And I cant give him an ultimatum or force him to do it because it just doesn’t feel right. But I feel so sad. I feel so completely heart broken. I hate that it is affecting me this much.

Post # 20
2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@MsAloe:  A proposal doesn’t have to come on or around a holiday, does it?

Maybe he wants “your” day to be a day of it’s own……I guess while I understand many people get engaged around the holidays, I’ve never really understood why.  Any day can be a romantic day!

Post # 21
564 posts
Busy bee

@MsAloe:  i keep sending gentle hints. we walked past the magazine brack, filled with beautiful wedding mags, i glance over, then glance at him, smile, all he said was…”oh please”…..


Yes please, we’ve been dating for nearly 6 years now….we’re financially stable….why the heack not??????


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