Post # 1
How many of you don’t have a proposal story? I don’t mean that he proposed to you on the couch. That IS a proposal story. I mean like no proposal at all, you just got engaged.
We had been talking about getting engaged for years. I had picked out the ring years ago. Finally we decided we were going to get officially engaged at our 9th anniversary, ordered the ring and there you have it.
The problem is so many people are asking was I surprised, how did he do it, etc. What do you say to that? Honestly, I don’t care at all. I would have been mortified by any kind of public proposal and the whole proposal thing wasn’t really us anyway. But I feel stupid when people ask and I have nothing to tell them.
Post # 3
hmmm… I think that happened to my brother and sister-in-law. That sounds lik what they told us once they finally decided that they actually were getting married. (and picked a date?)
I don’t really know what to tell you about what to say to people who ask though… Maybe if you dont really like the people, you could make up some awesomely ridiculous story and tell them? (and be sure to tell a different story to everyone, so when they start comparing stories…) 😉
Post # 4
@Cem0930: it may not be a romatic swept of your feet proposal story, But it still seems like a story to me 🙂 Sort of reminds me of Carrie’s proposal in sex and city….but instead of ordeirng a diamond, they ordered a closet. haha
I don’t have much of a story either. Yes there was a couch involved, but he didn’t actually ask me, he wrote it on a magna doodle…….lol
Post # 5
We just kind of grew into the idea of getting married after more than 8 years together…so I think really if thats how it is for you, be proud thats how it happened, theres no reason why we who didn’t have a “formal” proposal should be any less proud of the fact we are getting married!!!
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 1969 - City, State
We don’t have one either,,, we discussed it and agreed the next step was to get married. When we finally got the ring, we sat on our living room floor together and he said a bunch of sweet things and he “asked” but we had already announced to our families that we were engaged. We’re not a traditional couple… so we didn’t worry much about the how! Congrats btw!! We’re “almost” date twins!! 🙂
Post # 7
its still a story , and anyone who has a problem with your version clearly has enough of their own problems they need to sort through
Post # 8
I would just keep it to yourself… say, “It was simple and very us”.
Post # 9
Our “story” is that we had been talking about getting married for a while. More so after going to a wedding last summer. We figured we could pull something like that off.
So then we were making dinner and expecting company one weekend. I said to him so do you think we can get married next year? We talked about it, picked our date, started on a guest list. The next day we went to buy me a ring and I got him a gift too. I wasn’t aloud to tell anyone until we had a ring and that was hard!!
So no fancy proposal, just something we agreed it was time to do. Something big and splashy wouldn’t of been us anyway.
Post # 10
My Fiance knew that I would have been upset by something big and elaborate…so he just gave me my ring at home on our 2 yr anniversary. He didn’t ask, just let me open the ring box. It was not a big deal, and it was how he knew I wanted it. I just tell people that he asked me on our anniversary at our house and that seems to be enough.Sometimes when people ask and I tell them, they say…’oh.’, since there were no fireworks or airplanes in the sky…but they can judge how they want.It was good enough for me, and if you are happy, then noone else should care! 🙂
Post # 11
We had actually planned to have just a symbolic ceremony……no legalities etc, then one day he just said….oh why bother with that, lets just do it for real. there was no gushy ‘will you marry me?” although i would have liked something….ANYTHING!