Post # 1
We’re definitely “small wedding” people…I’ve often thought about eloping, but the idea of not having certain special moments with family is what stops me. My SO’s family does not dance. My family rarely gets together, so I don’t know what their dancing status is. We both love our family and want them present, however my SO has already said he doesn’t want yet another “prom-type” reception. No booze, no dance floor, no big band. While I don’t need booze or a big “prom” with live music, I always thought of having a small space with a nice DJ to dance (First dance, Dance with the Father, etc.). My SO does actually dance, but he says he won’t dance at the wedding because his family frowns upon it…don’t ask.
I’m freaking out a bit. How can I get what I want (I wanna dance!!) without it turing into “yet another prom”? I’m not even sure how to deal with the whole family frowning upon dancing thing. Am I really not going to be able to dance at my wedding because his parents think dancing is wrong (meanwhile we’re both hitting up the salsa clubs)?
Post # 2
Can you do a morning wedding with a brunch reception? Then just do a father daughter dance and a first dance. Then if you want, that night you and some of your guests can go out and cut a rug.
Post # 3
rosadejulio: You could have a lovely dinner with family, do the traditions like cake cutting etc that you wish to include, then FI’s family can choose to leave early if they are offended by dancing.
Post # 4
My family isn’t the dancing type either. We have 34 people coming. I’m considering having private dances. One with my father during cocktail hour for just me and him and one later on for just me and Fiance. No dj, just a guitarist and we will be off to the side for photographers to see. I get my dances but not on display.
Post # 5
We’re not having a DJ, but we’ll have a laptop playing with a spotify mix or something for those that do want to dance. We’re having lawn games, cards, and games for the kids. (Like bubbles and hula hoops and sidewalk chalk and stuff like that.) More like an upscale family picnic with booze.
Post # 6
What about a backyard bbq reception. Doesn’t feel prom like or super fancy, but can still be beautiful and a lot of fun with more of a relaxed feel.
Post # 7
What about a small wedding after lunch, cake and punch afternoon reception for a bit, have dinner with your immediate family, then have some sort of after party with your friends with dancing?
Post # 8
Gsxr06: this is a really sweet idea! Thanks
Post # 9
Vermont2015: i think that would be a great idea- unfortunately we are apartment dwellers and have no real backyard :'(
Post # 10
rosadejulio: If you still want to have a backyard vibe, most public parks have a pavillion that you can rent. They’re usually really affordable. In Pittsburgh, I think it’s like $100–and it usually comes with a liquor license. I know you said he didn’t want booze, but still, it’s nice to know you have the option.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
You don’t have to have dancing at a reception. We didn’t have dancing at my reception, we played party games instead with some bgm playing 🙂