(Closed) No proposal yet

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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cinderelladreaming :  Have you asked him if there is a specific reason he is procrastinating with his divorce? This would not make me happy. If he wants to marry you like he says he does then surely his prority would be to sort the divorce out.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Talk to him and let him know you are ready to get engaged and ask what his timeline is. See if you can agree on a timeline that works for both of you and one he follows through with. If you can’t, there’s your answer. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

i am concerned that if i keep bringing it up he will just propose under pressure and resent it. Any advice?

Your boyfriend is an adult and he should be able to make his own decisions, regardless of any pressure he’s under. You shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells around him about a topic that will determine the course your future takes. Your bf is a big boy, he can handle the knowledge that his gf wants a ring, and if he’s not ready to give you one, he needs to tell you so. Shit or get off the pot!

[Edited because I misread the quote I copied…not enough coffee yet this morning!]

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

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cinderelladreaming :  

The only thing I can think is he was already married, so maybe he’s not sure. He could be second guessing himself. And if I was divorced and dating someone new and they wanted marriage you’d have to bet I would be second guessing the choice to get married again; especially with the divorce hanging over his head making it an all too clear reminder of what a bad marriage can result in.

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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cinderelladreaming :  What was his previous marriage and divorce like? I can understand if it was especially hard or difficult he might want to wait a bit before jumping into another one. How long exactly has he been officially divorced? Also, how old are the two of you? Do you have children together?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

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cinderelladreaming :  He won’t even commit to taking a vacation with you?! That is troubling…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

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cinderelladreaming :  The fact that committing to a weekend trip is too much to ask from him and he avoids inconvenient responsibilities at all costs doesn’t exactly spell “marriage material” to me, sorry.

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