- 9 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
Even though our officiant is a minister, fiance and I are having a civil ceremony (no god/religion/Jesus/Mary/whatever) because neither of us is religious. When we first met with our officiant we went over the things we definitely want/don’t want at the ceremony — bilingual (Spanish/English) ceremony, no “giving away”, no “now presenting Mr & Mrs”, no “you may kiss the bride/puede besar a la novia”, no “I decalre you man and wife/marido y mujer”… There will be a parents’ blessing at the start of the ceremony but not religious, more like both sets of parents saying that they support our relationship and whatnot. We’re also having a unity sand ceremony. We don’t know yet if we’re writing our own vows or not, and we haven’t decided yet how we’re doing the vows/rings, in terms of languages.
Now, the question is about readings. Our officiant told us to get back to him about the vows/rings thing and we’ll most likely meet with him again before the wedding to go over the entire contents of the ceremony. But he also told us to get back to him about readings…
Do we really need to have readings? In the last 2 years I went to 2 weddings, one catholic and one civil. The catholic wedding had readings, which was obvious because the wedding was during mass. The civil wedding was officiated by a judge and had no readings aside from the marriage/legal stuff that the judge read.
Fiance and I don’t really feel like having readings at the ceremony because that would just make the ceremony be longer. We also haven’t come across many interesting/non-cheesy/non-religious wedding readings that we like, but that may be just because we haven’t spent much time searching.
Is it fine to have no readings at the ceremony? I think there’s going to be enough weddingy/marriagey stuff with the parents blessing and the unity sand and the vows/rings and whatever else our officiant will read… Opinions please? 🙂