Post # 1
This is my second wedding, and my fiance is a very private person. We are having a very small, simple ceremony with probably less than 30 guests. Our location is a small, historical chapel in a local cemetery. There is not room for a reception. Neither of us really want a reception–we have all we need, we just want our friends to share our joy with us during the ceremony. Should there be any wording on the invitation addressing the fact that there is no reception?
Post # 3
are people flying/travelling far for this?
Post # 4
No, it is only family and close friends–a 20-minute drive from the ceremony site, tops. With the exception of my best friend and her husband, who we plan to take to dinner afterward, along with my bf’s parents.
Post # 5
I would definitely try to give people a heads up since no reception is a deviation from the norm. At the same time, it’s important that everyone recognizes that there ISN’T a reception, not just that they aren’t invited.
Have you given any thought to a restaurant reception afterwards? This would be really low-key since you wouldn’t need to decorate or anything, and you could even have all of your guests who’d like to join pay for their own meals if that fits your budget together. This would give you an opportunity to extend the celebration a bit without the to-do of a formal reception
Post # 6
You might want to do something…. even just cake and champagne. Everyone’s going to want to celebrate with you! Or as saramari suggests, at least let everyone know where you are going for dinner so they can join you if the would like to. Even better would be to have a small restaurant reception — wine and snacks, or a full meal or something. Or a picnic in the park? Toss some blankets on the ground, have everyone bring a dish to pass and you’re set.
There are so many things you can do for a casual, small, inexpensive reception. And it could be short. As a guest, it would be strange not to have any sort of celebrating after the ceremony — they came to support you, and share their best wishes. There’s just not enough time for everyone to be able to do that (even if there are only 30 guests) if there isn’t any sort of gathering after the ceremony.
But …. to answer your actual question …. (and get off my preachy soapbox) …. you would want to give people a heads up, but it wouldn’t seem appropriate to have it on the invitation. Word of mouth should be fine.
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
Instead of a reception, how about you guys just go to a local resturant? You can put "dinner to follow" on the invite.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I concur with those who suggested the restaurant. This is what we talked about doing too – go to the ceremony, then take everyone to a local restaurant for an informal dinner and drinks.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2009 - Beach Social Hall
I like Miss Sushi’s idea, of maybe a dinner or lunch to follow (at someone’s home or a restaurant); if not, I would definitely let your guests know that a reception will not follow. Good luck 🙂
Post # 10
I second bluejeangreen…don’t put it in the invite. But with 30 guests word of mouth shouldn’t be so difficult.