(Closed) No registry

posted 5 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

GL!!

Most people will bring a check/cash as a gift but in my experience someone will just go out and buy something and give it to you.  I would not have anyone send out a note saying “no boxed gifts.”  This could be seen the wrong way.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think that by choosing not to have a registry to you are opening yourself up to people not gifting something, some people just aren’t comfortable gifting money, it can seem crass.

Gifts are not required anyway, boxed or not. 

Definitely don’t spread the word on purpose so those that aren’t aware that no registry means you want money aren’t randomly told. Do let  close friends/family know so that if they are asked they can make sure to tell people your wishes.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would consider creating a small registry.  If you don’t you will just get crap you don’t want. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think this is regional because some Bees have reported that cash is the norm at weddings vs boxed gifts. I can say that some of my friends of Eastern descent tend to get way more cash gifts than boxed gifts.

However, this appears to be somewhat uncommon in your area as indicated by the fact that some guests feel they can show up empty-handed. I think it is rather unusual and am suprised anyone would do that. I speak from experience that when my ILs don’t see a registry, they’ll bring a boxed gift, not cash (unless it was a close family member or friend).

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Some good friends of mine did not have a registry. They very subtly had the word spread that they did not need household goods, but would love guests to make charity donations in their honor, and they were saving for future travel (this was not written down anywhere. They had their moms say this when asked). They got a lot of cash, and a bunch of people gave them physical gifts. Nothing crazy or hidious though. They had a table with a guestbook that people put gifts and cards on. It worked just fine. It was a fairly small wedding though-only about 75 guests.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We aren’t having a registry and so far it’s created some problems. Apparently people really want registries. We don’t have room for gifts though, so we really can’t register. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with Americanos first part.  “I think that by choosing not to have a registry to you are opening yourself up to people not gifting something, some people just aren’t comfortable gifting money, it can seem crass. Gifts are not required anyway, boxed or not. “

If you are worried about not getting gifts from people since you dont have a registry go createa small one so those people feel like they have an option. Alot of people (especially those younger) may feel awkward just giving cash… they also may not know norms yet of weddings.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Cash is def the norm here. Registries are generally for showers. I would just set up a little registry for guest who insist on buying a boxed gift. No I wouldn’t direct anyone to tell people you want cash, it makes you & them look rude. 

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