Post # 1
Is having no registry okay?
Fiance and I are getting married in NY, but then we’re moving overseas – meaning we can’t pack a million gifts or household items with us. Is it okay to simply forgo a registry of any kind? In all honesty we’d rather have a financial gift as the wedding & the move are incredibly expensive, but of course we’re not asking for/expecting anything. I just don’t want to waste time or other peoples’ money on gifts that we don’t want and can’t take with us.
Same goes for bridal shower…does this mean I should just tell my guests for the shower no gifts? I’m not sure how this works.
Post # 3
If you don’t want physical gifts, you shouldn’t have a shower. The whole purpose of the shower is for showering the bride with gifts. Have a Bridal Tea/Luncheon with the female guests, but don’t call it a shower.
No registry is fine, and generally gets the point across that you’d like money.
Post # 4
Ah that’s why I have the bee! 🙂 I just thought the bridal shower was more a fun get together for the girls to celebrate, just with added gifts. Bridal luncheon sounds much better!
Post # 5
I’ve been to two weddings now that did not have a registry. Both couples had a note on their websites. One mentioned a “well wishing well” (it was a very pretty box for the envelopes). The other asked not to bring them anything as they have double of everything (they each have their own house). I am European so I got the hint that they are looking for envelopes instead.
Post # 6
I would assume that as long as your guests know you are planning an immediate move to another country post-wedding, they would know to give you envelopes as opposed to an actual gift. However, the key is getting the word out. I wouldn’t necessarily assume that not having a registry will equal all envelopes as people will, instead, shop off the registry and now you will end up with stuff you never wanted. If you are worried about not getting the word out that you are moving, then I would consider doing a honeymoon registry. In addition, depending on your guests, there may be people that still believe in “real gifts” and will buy something instead of gifting cash.
Post # 7
@lilbluebird: I agree. You might just end up getting some random stuff. I think while some people would figure you wanted money, others might not.
You could do a honeyfund… they have a “deposit” option as well as their honeymoon registry option. I have a friend doing that — too early to see how it will work out, though!