Post # 1
I am 41, Fiance 43. We don’t need anything. Plus, this is my second marriage. My Future Mother-In-Law is throwing me a shower but I only agreed to it if it was a no-gift bridal luncheon.
People are asking us where we are registered. Is it polite to say we aren’t? Or should we go out and register for things so people feel more comfortable?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
We were going to register and then we decided not to. We’re having such a small wedding that we really don’t expect to get many gifts anyway. Plus, it’s my second wedding and we live in a small place so there really isn’t anywhere to put a bunch of gifts. Who wouldn’t like some cash? But we’re not asking for money either. Our stock repsonse is going to be we just want to get married with our families and friends there to celebrate with us so we’re not expecting gifts.
Post # 4
@mtbikelover: It is not rude to not register. Its perfectly fine to say you don’t have one and that you don’t need anything. If, however, you wouldn’t mind having some new towels or kitchen gadgets, go ahead and create a small registry for those type items.
Post # 5
No, but if you know you have guests who prefer to give registry gifts it’s a good idea to do a small one, just out of consideration. If your guests just want an idea as to what to give, and like to give cash, then don’t bother registering.
Post # 6
I don’t need anything either, but I do want a waffle maker and other fancy little gadgets I would never buy myself. Plus some new towels and sheets never hurt anyone!
Post # 7
We didn’t register. People still got us things, which doesn’t bother me, but we chose not to becuase if I register for stuff I already had, I’d have to give away like-new stuff. I didn’t have anything replace.
If I had to place things on there that were “fun” I’d look bad because who would get us that kind of stuff? (Like a gaming console and what not)
So I opted not to have one, and some of his family frowned upon it, but it is what it is. Many people ended up getting us gift cards to go out to eat or for ice cream, so we have plenty of date night ideas now.
Post # 8
Totally not rude to go without a registry. Don’t be surprised if some guests still want to bring you gifts. Some people just feel compelled to bring a gift if they’re invited to a wedding, no matter what the bride says. As the PP’s suggested, you may want a small backup registry for such guests. You could also suggest a charity for donations instead, if you’re not accepting any cash or noncash gifts at all.
Post # 9
@BoxerLady: Agreed! We had a small registry for household items and formal china and I’m glad we did.
You’re really making me want a waffle maker though.
Post # 10
@Zhabeego: My Fiance says I’m driving him crazy talking about it, so he is just going to buy it for me. Maybe that was my plan all along! I like fun gadgets but I can’t justify spending the money on them. If there’s one day you’re allowed to splurge a little, I think that’s your wedding day 🙂
I’ve always wanted a formal china set, but I don’t think I’m mature enough to host dinner parties that require it 😛
Post # 11
I’ve thought about small kitchen stuff but we have everything we want. The only thing I would like is a Kitchenaid mixer but that’s too expensive to register for. And I have a waffle maker and love it! I make batches at a time and freeze them for the kids breakfast.
I have tons of sheets and at 41, I’m not mature enough for china! :-). I would never use it.