(Closed) No Registry. Just send cash.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 62
609 posts
Busy bee

Honestly, if brides are required to put their guests best interests at heart when it comes to the ceremony and reception, they are expected to spend a good deal of money making sure everyone gets fed, drunk, ect. I don’t see an issue with the guests donating to a honeyoon fund so the couple, who just spent a shit ton of money, can enjoy their new married life!

Post # 63
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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Post # 64
400 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it’s fine to ask for money, or contribution towards your honeymoon, but personally I don’t give much when that’s the only option at someone’s wedding, I’ll spend ten times the amount on a gift if I feel like they will actually be using it for years to come.  I don’t see why I should contribute to a holiday for a couple who earn more than me, but I wouldn’t get angry or upset if it was the only option since so many couples do that now.  

Post # 65
301 posts
Helper bee

You can always ask for Visa giftcards, which you can use like a credit card or at an ATM to get cash. I think you can tactfully explain that you are not sure what you need, if anything, but that money is tight and you would appreciate gifts of cash rather than physical gifts to help fund your wedding and new life together. Sometimes people get really offended when you ask for money, even if that money is going to buy the same set of plates you could have put on a registry. They can either contribute or not, but be sure to say monetary gifts are greatly appreciated but not required. Personally I think aall gifts should be optional, but some people might feel like they have to get you a gift, in this case money, and get feel a little miffed.

Post # 66
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not having a registry because Fiance and I are moving, but we don’t know where. Hopefully, we’ll get cash, but no way will I outright ask for it. No matter how you put it, it still sounds like, “Give me money.”

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