Post # 1
Basically, I already know how Bees feel about Honeymoon Registries, but in general, I don’t like Registries of any kind. However, I’m feeling pressure from numerous people in my circle to create a Registry (probably because my mother really wants to throw me a shower) and since Fiance and I already live together, I don’t want to register for more stuff, just for the sake of fulfilling people’s expectations of us.
FI’s Grandmother is giving us her beautiful China and my Mom is giving us her parents’ Silver, so those are some really big items that would have taken up space on a Registry that we no longer need.
By nature, Fiance and I are more into experiences. We’re big travelers and we love food and wine and sharing these types of experiences with our family/friends, so while a Honeymoon Registry is considered tacky to some, it makes total sense for us.
What we decided to do to make it perhaps a little less “tacky” is create a small registry for towels, bed sheets, placemats, a tent and air mattress (since we love camping) etc. and we will pay for our entire Honeymoon (airfare and cruise tickets). The only things we will include on our Honeymoon Registry will be “optionals” like a bottle of wine with dinner, upgraded dining experiences, spa treatments, shore excursions, things like that, which are extras. It people “buy” those items off our Registry, we’ll purchase them from the Cruise website, which are things we might not have indulged in otherwise.
Anyone think this is reasonable? If not, the only other option for us is not having a Registry at all, because we can’t really fill an entire registry with enough items.
Does anyone find these things
Post # 3
How would your guests receieve this? I know in my circle, a Honeymoon registry would be really frowned on, and therefore, not well received by my guests at all.
If you’re doing a registry because your mom wants to throw a shower… well, would you even have a shower for a honeymoon registry? (Not trying to be a jerk, I honestly don’t know!) It seems like people wouldn’t be printing out their confirmation email to show you what they got you, then wrapping it up and giving it to you as they would a traditional shower gift.
A lot of Bees have done Honeymoon registries with success, and others have not had success. I think it really boils down to your guests and how traditional they are in their gifting. Personally, I would not buy from a honeymoon registry, so I think doing a combination of a Honeymoon and traditional would probably be your best bet.
Post # 4
I ended up doing a mixture with a honeymoon registry and two more traditional registires (one from Macy’s and one from Target). Our guests ended up really loving the honeymoon registry and we got tons of comments on how fun it was to get us experiences instead of just the standard wedding fare. 🙂 I would recommend simply thinking about your friends and family and whether or not they would like something like a honeymoon registry. I knew ours would work because we have a lot of friends (and several family members) who are very busy and use the internet a lot. They liked the convenience of purchasing experiences off of the honeymoon registry. If you have a lot of internet savvy folks who aren’t super traditional (or folks who might be too busy to get an item off of a traditional registry) I say you should definitely do a mixture!
As a side note to the previous poster, at my shower, there were a lot of folks who ended up purchasing something off of the honeymoon registry. What a lot of them ended up doing was printing off a little certificate from the website that stated what the item was and either included that in with a card or had it included in other cute ways. One of my husband’s Aunts actually ended up putting together a little honemoon care package with a bunch of little items we would need (sunscreen, chapsticks, little snacks for the plane, etc) and she also included the honeymoon registry certificate in with that. I guess what I’m saying is that people can still give a gift off of a honeymoon registry in a cute/fun way. 🙂
Post # 5
@Erika_Meep: Thank you! This is just what I wanted to hear! 🙂
Post # 6
@csteen85: You’re welcome! And good luck with your registries!! 🙂
Post # 7
@Erika_Meep: Oh, fun! I didn’t think outside the box enough on that one! 🙂
Post # 8
We did the combo and it worked out really well!!
Our guests were really excited about our honeymoon registry. Our friends are all in the “marry later in life” camp, and understood that we didn’t need as much “stuff” and were genuinely excited to follow along on our travel adventures and to contribute to it!
Post # 9
I’m personally doing just the traditional registry as Fiance and I aren’t really into honeymoon registries (for ourselves specifically). We had a friend do a combination of both though and it worked out well. She had a few small registries in a variety of price points (some were clearly items they wanted the registry discount on e.g. pricey pieces of furniture) and she had two showers thrown in her honor, both of which included registry information. She got odds and ends from those. She also had a full honeymoon registry that included all the experience gifts as well as airfare/hotel/etc. I’m fairly good friends with them, so I knew these things were already paid for and scheduled either way and that they really just wanted money as they’ve lived together for ages. We gave them a shower gift from the registry and a few activities from the honeymoon registry. The older folks they knew gave money anyway and didn’t actually pick out stuff from the honeymoon registry.
Personally, I would not go without a registry. So far, we’ve had some guests think we didn’t register and they are trying to think of things to give us. We’ve co-habitated for ages AND we are kind of particular people, so hopefully, they know us well enough to pick something we would use. None of the “I have no idea” people are planning to give cash, as far as we know.
Post # 10
@abbie017: Yeah! I thought that it was a super awesome idea! It’s definitely something I might consider doing in the future if I know any other brides doing a honeymoon registry. 🙂
Post # 11
I think that’s a great idea! My Brother-In-Law and SIL did the same thing, a regular registry and then an ‘extra’s’ one for their honeymoon. Everyone had fun giving them dinner at a specific place and what not…in fact everything we wanted to give them was already taken before we could!
FYI, I’m doing something similar…just to give people ‘ideas’ not that I need any of the stuff on either one (although it’s all stuff I’d happily use), but some people just really don’t want to give money in any way and would rather buy you a wine glass set or something.