Post # 1
My fiance wants to skip the rehearsal dinner-just not have one. He wants to just do a rehearsal and then split off and see everyone at the wedding. We are having a destination wedding wtih only about 50 people more than have of which would come to the reheasal dinner. Is it weird/stupid? I feel like we will be having two of the same dinners back to back?
Post # 3
If you’re having a destination wedding and half of your guests will already be there for the rehearsal, then yes I think you should have something for them. It can be completely optional but I’d consider something very simple like a cook out or pizza or a local restaurant. Nothing fancy, but I do think you should consider hosting your guests for both nights.
Post # 4
I’m not having a rehearsal dinner. My wedding is on a Sunday and our “rehearsal” is on Thursday afternoon. I’m not even sure if anyone (besides family) will be able to come to the rehearsal, as groomsmen & bridesmaids have work and we feel bad asking them to take it off. As for out-of-towners, my side won’t really have any and while FI’s side does, we are leaving it up to his family to do a dinner for them if they want.
Both sets of our parents are paying for the wedding, so we told them we would prefer not to have a rehearsal dinner and for that money to go towards the actual wedding.
Post # 5
I’ll be interested to see what other bees think of this question because I could see myself in the same situation (though with a smaller guest list).
Post # 6
I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a wedding that did not have a rehearsal dinner. I did all the flowers for the wedding and drove 45 minutes each way for the rehearsal and then again for the wedding. Myself and the other BMs were offended that we were not important enough to take out to dinner, no matter how nice or casual.
I think a rehearsal dinner is expected and necessary.
Post # 7
Don’t want to do it? Then don’t! It’s up to you! You are already thanking your guests by having the wedding meal and drinks. Or, if you just want to keep it light, maybe suggest rehearsal cocktails instead of a dinner?
Post # 8
i am thinking about doing the same thing but we are not havin a Destination Wedding so you got my vote
Post # 9
For a Destination Wedding not only is it appropriate to have a rehearsal dinner, but you should throw a welcome dinner for everyone who took the time and money to attend.
I would have a Rehearsal Dinner and invite everyone. Period.
Post # 10
We are having a destination wedding as well. The rehearsal dinner will be on the Friday that everyone will be arriving. While we wont be a doing a welcome dinner as suggested above, we will be possibly putting visa check cards into everyones welcome gifts so that they can have dinner on us though
Post # 11
Agree with previous posters about having a welcome dinner. You don’t have to call it a rehearsal dinner, but for a destination wedding it’s nice to have a dinner for everyone. I’m having a destination wedding and our rehearsal dinner is going to be a welcome dinner for everyone.
Post # 12
You could always do a cocktail hour after the rehersal. If it’s earlier in the day, maybe a quick light brunch. Maybe just cake & punch? But either way, I feel like you should do something. I would even do this in addition to a welcome dinner.
Post # 13
You should have a rehearsal dinner/welcome dinner. I think rehearsal dinners are always good (no matter how fancy or not fancy they are) to thank your wedding party and families. Since you are having a destination wedding, this seems even more important to me since everyone is taking extra time and money to come. I would just invite all the guests that will be there, and you will get to have an extra celebration with them.
Post # 14
@goldendreams: I think if you are having a Destination Wedding then you should have a dinner for the guests.
Post # 15
Well since your guests have paid a lot of money to travel for your Destination Wedding, yes, I think some sort of welcome dinner/rehearsal dinner would be a polite way to show your thanks.
Post # 16
My friend did a dw- we went to eat sushi and went bowling- all on our own dime. No one made a big deal about it, we all had fun.