(Closed) No rehearsal – still need a rehearsal dinner?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    Don’t you love how everyone starts having an opinion about “your” wedding!? LOL.  I don’t see the need or added expense of having an elaborate rehearsal dinner at a catering hall, etc.  Could you possibly just have a small potluck bbq/dinner or order/go out for pizza?  I am actually having a rehearsal the night before at our venue, and we decided to go with an in-between option to save money, and we are meeting up for pizza and salad before hand.  The venue offers a catered rehearsal dinner, but it would have been like $700, and we are trying to keep our budget tight.  We are probably going to spend around $200 feeding everyone before the rehearsal, and it’s more relaxed/our style. Good luck & happy planning! 

    Post # 4
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    mrsreardon2bee:  no you def dont need to. And unless your Mother-In-Law is footin the bill, she needs to keep her mouth shut. And since there wouldnt be a rehearsal, it wouldnt even be a rehearsal dinner, it would be more like a celebratory dinner the night before the wedding

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

    A friend of mine didnt have a ceremony rehearsal either, but did have a dinner.  It was a nice time for the family to get together and mingle before the big day. 

     

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    mrsreardon2bee:  We have to fee approx 30 people, so I completely understand…that’s why we’re going the pizza and house salad route! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    It’s up to you but if you’re not having a rehearsal I’d say you don’t need a dinner. 

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee

    Hi! We are doing this!

    Rehearsal dinner without the rehearsal! It works out just fine. We are doing the run through the day of at our venue which is no biggie at all. It will actually be nice to just drink and mingle with my future hubby’s family that I have not met yet. 

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    mrsreardon2bee:  Haha, love it when FMILs come in and have opinions without any monetary contributions.  My Mother-In-Law wanted us to scrape our Destination Wedding idea when we first started planning and have the wedding locally.  We were paying for the whole wedding on our own.  DW was only not local, but in Cali (we’re from NY) because it would be closer to my parents, who are the caretakers of my autistic brother. My brother doesn’t fly, so my parents would have to drive the 2500 miles to New York or all of them couldn’t attend my wedding.   Sorry, I digress.   We had a rehearsal dinner, but Darling Husband wanted to invite all of his family (aunts, uncles, cousins, you name it) and out of town guests, so we had 60 people at our rehearsal dinner.   Do I regret having a rehearsal dinner? Not at all.  Everyone had a great time.  Was I pissed about having to pay for and organize a dinner for so many people during the planning process?  Absolutely.   In My Humble Opinion, you don’t need a rehearsal dinner if you’re not having a rehearsal, and no, a rehearsal dinner does need to include people outside of your immediate family and wedding party and their SOs.   It would be nice to have one, but again, not required or expected.  If you have the wiggle room in your budget, I would do it, because it really made for some great memories, but if not, don’t do it.  And like some of PPs say, it doesn’t have to be fancy, some pizzas and beers are fine.  A few couples I know did a BBQ, and those are typically affordable.  Also, you don’t have to supply the alcohol.        

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    mrsreardon2bee:  We are having a rehearsal the night before but after the rehearsal our venue lets us have 2 hours to decorate.  So they want us to do the rehearsal at 6 till 7 then we will decorate till 9.  That is kind of late to have a dinner after so what we are doing is renting the banquet room that is in the hotel where everyone is staying.  We have it for 8 hours and we are picking up BBQ.  We will all eat around 4-430 so we can get to rehearsal but then it will be there for anyone that arrives later and wants to grab something to eat. 

    The prices I have gotten so far (not catered, just pick up and serve) will run us about $400 with enough meats and sides for 50 people. I’ll pick up some plates, sodas and cups.  Very informal but I wanted to make sure I did something. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  cookiebird.
    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    Wow weddings in Ireland are so much more laid back than in the US. No rehearsal dinners done here! Or bridal showers too for that matter ๐Ÿ™‚ 

     

    I say no, dont have one!

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