Post # 32
I’m an ourdoorsy person and while I love the idea of this, the lack of a restroom and the logistics are just too much- I drink a ton of water, like most active people, and use the restroom every 30~ minutes.
I’m not sure what wording would be appropriate for this- or if such a thing exists. I think it would definitely need to go on the “more info” card and maybe put something like…”Restrooms will be available before and after the ride up to the ceremony, but there will not be any facilities at the ceremony site.” And somehow make sure people know the amount of time they will be without facilities. “Please dehydrate yourselves in order to make sure you don’t need to relieve yourself”
Post # 33
Have you committed to this yet? This really is a lot to ask of your guests, and to be honest, they won’t be happy with this arrangement.
Post # 34
This has to be one of the worst ideas I’ve heard in a long time. Two hours in a jeep, on what presumably are pretty bumpy roads if regular vehicles can’t pass, bringing on the possibility of car sickness (and bumpy roads aggravate the bladder when you have to pee), and no bathroom facilities? Depending on where in the world you are, outdoors in July would require at least some fluid intake to avoid dehydration.
When a wedding invitation requires an enclosure that spells out peeing in a bush and the need for “puke bags”… It sounds like a recipe for disaster for all involved.
Post # 36
@sarahuccs: Then I would phrase the invite as more of an optional ceremony attendance type thing? Like really spell out what it entails and make it known that you 100% will understand if people don’t attend the ceremony part. Though I still think the best call would be to do a private, family only ceremony like you mentioned. Your outdoorsy friends will understand.
Post # 37
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@sarahuccs: I backpack a lot and all that, so I’m fine peeing in the woods. I’d still come to your wedding!
To answer your question, SINCE FEW PEOPLE ARE DOING THAT, I would say something like “During the 1-hour (each way) Jeep trip and 1 1/2 hours spent at the ceremony site, no restroom facilities will be available. Please come prepared to make do when nature calls.” Or something like that??
Oh, and I voted for mass email. I think that’d be equally reasonable as an insert in the invite.
Post # 38
I would have a bag strapped to me somewhere. I cannot go that long without peeing, my bladder is the size of a peanut. I would have to decline, so please let your guest know up front!
ETA and it’s generally not healthy to hold your pee. And I think it would be completely tacky to expect people to go pee in formal attire in the woods at your wedding. Like, uh, where’s Jane? Oh she’s squatting somewhere. LOL, no. 100% try to get a port-a-potty.
Post # 39
All you bees have great ideas and opinions (I knew this would be the right place to ask).
As I replied to MissFadley above, we toyed around with the idea of doing this as a private, family-only ceremony, which is still a possibility.
However, I know some of my outdoorsy friends would love to join us. But if I invited them, how could I be fair and not invite the other guests either?
Which is why I’m asking HOW TO SPREAD THE WORD!
Post # 40
This would be one of those situations where I would skip the ceremony and go to the reception only.
I’m not old or pregnant and I can hold my bladder for a long time… I don’t pee on planes and I’ve been on some long plane rides! It’s not comfy though. Thinking about the last few weddings I’ve been to, we have usually had a glass of wine/champagne/cocktail/beer before the ceremony, so I usually have to pee afterwards. I can’t imagine a 2 hour bumpy ride while needing to pee! Even if there’s no reason for drinking before the ceremony, it’s outside right? So I would need to drink water since it’s July. So again, I would have to pee.
Honestly, I probably wouldn’t drive 2 hours for a 20 minute ceremony and then back to the reception. If the whole thing was in one place then sure, but not for a ceremony only. Unless it was someone that’s super close to me!
I think the best way to deal with this is put something in the invitation and hope for the best.
Post # 41
I honestly wouldn’t find this a big deal, at least for myself.
OP has the right to arrange her ceremony however she pleases. I’m guessing she’s aware that everyone won’t be able to make it, and isn’t that the same as planning a DW? Just because it’s not convenient to every single person doesn’t mean you can’t do it.
I’d be kind of jazzed, really. ..As long as I was in a vehicle with super cool people, of course.
Post # 42
I’m assuming there are no port-a-pottie companies that would deliver one up there… otherwise it would be a pretty easy fix.
Post # 43
I think this does not sound pleasant at all (because of the washroom factor). I dont think people can truly enjoy themselves if they need to hold it in for so long….
I would decline the invitation for sure becasue that would be torture for me.
Post # 44
I could not hold my bladder for 3-4 hours (especially while I was pregnant!), but I would not decline. I would go in a bush, I have done it many times before…I have no shame, it is a fact of life when doing outdoor activities.
Do not be surprised if some people decide not to go though. I think you should enclose that information because some people do have medical conditions where they have to go or unlike me….are modest and will hold it until they burst.
Post # 45
@sarahuccs: All I know is that after a bumpy ride, I gotta go! I have a strong bladder but I would most likely not be attending because of this. It is very inconsiderate to your guests. I guarentee that a large number of people will have to go. When you have a large group like you do there is no avoiding that.
If I were you, I would write on the invitations clearly so that no one can miss it “Unfortunately, there will be no restrooms available at the ceremony location. The ride to and from the location is an hour each way on a bumpy road. Although your attendance would be greatly appriciated, it is understandable if you are not able to attend due to these circumstances.”
Be prepared for people to decline. Don’t be upset if people decline. You say that you want to consider their feelings, but like PPs stated, if there are no restrooms available their feelings are not being considered. I would probably even contact my elderly guests and those with young children to make sure they understand. Finally, I strongly suggest looking further into porta potty options. There must be a way to have one at your location. Good luck!
Post # 46
I think an enclosure with this:
Saying something like – See this? We don’t have em….be ready to make like a bear in the woods!