(Closed) No ring??

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

A ring an engagement does not make.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

While I don’t think rings and big fancy wedding plans are necessary, I DO think it’s important to consider the other’s wants and feelings. It doesn’t sound like he is open to doing that for her, so that does make me sad.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@MrsParcell:  If he does not like or believe what a ring stands for, no. He does not have to get her one. If she wants one, that is something she needs to work out with him, but he is not required to buy her a ring. Socially it is the “norm” but there are different folks from different strokes all over the world. Some cultures, and some families don’t use rings.

If he doesn’t like rings, that’s his prerogative. If she wants one, that’s hers.

Personally, I think this guy was pressured into it. Either by her or by their peers. If that’s the case, he doesn’t really want to get married and I think a ring would be the least of her worries.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

He sounds like a douche AND he’s putting her in the ackward position to ask him for money to buy herself a ring.  Who does that?  I think after 9 yrs of putting up with his stupid ass, the least he can do is get her a ring.  However, their relationship doesnt seem that great to begin with and maybe they’re both just settling.  I would sit back and watch the sh1tshow unfold as their wedding date gets closer… unfortunately, there’s nothing u can really do.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Aww 🙁 OF COURSE she would want a pretty ring! WTH is he thinking? Is he stingy? Maybe he thinks an ER should be super expensive? Is he really going to just “give her money so she can buy whatever she wants”?? What a douche…

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sounds like he is not too eager to get married.

My fiance is quite liberal and he didnt really believe in the concept of engagement, ring or wedding.  His first wedding was at his lunch time at the city hall. (he is 20 years older).  But at the same time he knows how important those things were to me, so he was willing to compromise to make me happy, he did get me a ring, but we didnt have an engagement party, and even though he’d rather just elope somewhere we’ve decided on a small wedding of 25-30 of or family and really close friends, and I am totally ok with that.

From experience if the guy really loves you and wants to be with you he’ll compromise on some things along the way.

Post # 14
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Newbee

I don’t think rings and big fancy wedding plans are necessary, I DO think it’s important to consider the other’s wants and feelings.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MrHT:  Lol, indeed.

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