Post # 1
We are less than two months away from our wedding. And after all the stress of wedding planning and me constantly asking when we will start looking for a ring, The fiancee tells me that we will just get some sometime after the wedding. This really frustrated me. We spent a pretty big amount for a small wedding and when he saw me in tears he just explained that because we couldnt afford it. It just doesnt make sense to me to go along with everything that has already been planned and say that we cannot afford to get wedding bands. Is it just me or isnt it a ring an important symbol combared to all the non-sense stuff in weddings? I am really consfused and I have to keep reminding myself why I am marrying this person.
Post # 3
Maybe you could at least get inexpensive stand in rings? Do you have an engagement ring?
Post # 4
Wedding bands can be very inexpensive. I would insist on at least a simple wedding band for the both of you. Walmart, Target, Sears…
Post # 5
I think you could just get some cheaper stand in rings until you can afford better ones. It is symbolic so I think you should have something if that’s what you are wanting.
Post # 6
Could you get inexpensive plain bands? My fiance and I are getting simple gold bands that are around $100 & $105 for each of them.
Post # 7
I agree with the stand-in idea.
Post # 8
@worriedconfusedbride: would $30 be too much for a nice band? i’ve seen a lot of nice titanium ones (mens and ladies) on ebay for that price. check it out. they start at $0.01 (bidding).
Post # 9
I am sorry you are going through this! I feel the engagement ring isn’t as important as some people make it out to be. It should be about marrying your best friend and man you want to spend the rest of your life with not about a diamond ring.
With that being said, I would want at least a wedding band. I would even go as far to say something like well we could save money by not doing (something for the wedding) and then afford wedding bands.
Hopefully if the things for the wedding are things he really wants to he will want to keep them both and also make getting wedding bands work into the picture. Do you think he will keep his word and buy you a ring after the wedding?
We got our wedding bands on ebay and they were antiques for both of them it was around 600-700. I am sure you could find something really nice for a great price if you try to shop around and maybe he will come around. I know my FI was a little worried they would cost us a lot more after seeing the prices of e-rings and bands at the mall type stores which are so over priced!
Hang in there and keep us informed on what happens!
Post # 10
I agree with PPs get stand in rings now and upgrade later.
It is not out of the ordinary at all to do this, weddings are expensive, life is expensive, don’t go into debt over rings but don’t forgo them either…sometimes men just don’t see things the way that women do. But if its important to you (it would be to me!) then you should look at your options.
I hope you two can find something within your price range. Even if you have to get CZ or white topaz or white sapphire or plain bands or a band of your choosing which you can all get for $100 or less. This is doable, I hope you two can agree to get this done before the wedding. Best of luck to you!
Post # 11
Just a thought. Do you this is rational for not getting rings is because he doesn’t want to wear a ring. Its not important to him so why is it important to you?- kind of thought?
Post # 12
My parents got cheapo rings from Kmart when they got married because my grandmother didn’t believe they could get married without a ring (I think they cost $60 in total in the 80’s). A decade later my mom got an engagement ring and nice wedding band, so my dad melted the cheapo rings down and made them into a ring with their initials (along with a lot of extra gold, they were really cheap rings).
My parents are still happily married, so you can get married and have a happy marriage regardless of whether or not you have a ring on your wedding day.
Post # 13
@skipanther: I dont really think that he doesnt want to wear it. He is well aware of all the other elements of the wedding including the reception. But to me the Ceremony is what is important and the ring is symbolic. It does not have to be expensive. To me, if you do enough reserach, take some time to look around, just make enough effort..you wont really have to spend that much on rings versus the amount of money spent elsewhere.
I am the one who was iffy about marriage..so we have been going out for almost seven years. WHen he proposed during our 6th year anniversary it was a big shock and I was also shocked on saying YES. I wanted to be with him regardless. But he wanted to get married and so I thought he knew what that’s all bout. Part of it is the Ceremony which is exchanging vows and the rings.
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Just go onto amazon and buy some $30 titanium bands to use in your ceremony and wear while you save up to afford something more. If you can’t afford a fancier ring, you can’t afford it.
Post # 16
“I am really consfused and I have to keep reminding myself why I am marrying this person.”
I know some people just like to come on here and vent, but if you really mean this, I think you have some thinking to do about whether you want to go through with the wedding.
What are you looking for in a wedding band? How much can you spend? Maybe we can help you find something in your budget. Men’s rings are easy if he’s willing to go the tungsten route. My fiance got a tungsten ring and it was $40.