Post # 1
We don’t plan on having a flower girl & ring bearer at our wedding as we are trying to keep it adults only for the most part (except immediate family). I have 2 siblings, a sister who will be 19 and is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and I’m having one bridesmaid. My FH has one sibling, a brother who will be 24 and is going to be best man and a long time friend is his groomsman. I also have a younger brother who will be 16. I feel bad by having my sister and FH brother be a part of the wedding but my brother is excluded from the ceremony part of it, would it be weird if I have my younger brother hold the wedding rings even though he’s not a “ring bearer”? Or should he be an Usher, what is an Usher exactly and what do they do? Only having about 75 guests or so. Thanks!
Post # 3
Is your dad walking you down the aisle? Maybe your younger brother could be an usher and escort your mom to her seat before the ceremony begins.
I’m not having a ring bearer or flower girl either and my brother is walking my mom down the aisle.
Post # 4
I guess he could do that, since there’s only 75 guests or so we technically only have 1 usher, the 1 groomsman, I don’t know if the best man is an usher too? If not, then my brother could be one. He’ll be 16 at the time of our wedding, although I’m not sure how comfortable he would be telling strangers where to go *laughs*
Post # 5
My daughter had an extremely large wedding as did two of our friend’s daughers and none of them had flower girls or ring bearers. I see it as a growing trend and people wish to rid their wedding of the distraction provided by the children.
In most weddings I have been involved in, the ring bearer NEVER actually touches or uses the actual rings.
It’s usually the responsibility of the maid of honor and best man to actually hold on to the rings.
Post # 6
To be honest with you – your brother will probably thank you for not getting him “involved” !! You know what teenage boys can be like! Maybe talk to him, and ask him what he wants to do. He could always wear a matching suit to the groomsman, but sit up the front with your family. That way he looks involved, but he doesn’t actually have to do anything 🙂