Post # 1
Say a couple gets engaged without a ring. He says one is coming but he doesn’t have it yet so the woman says yes. The man is extremely well off and flashes his money in other ways but really drags his feet on the engagement ring.
What are your automatic/first thoughts about this? Just curious.
Post # 3
I will answer my own question. Without knowing any inside details, I would say the guy comes off as selfish.
Post # 4
@orchidaloha: Idk honestly. Maybe he is buying her a huge rock with a customized setting that is taking a while to be finished…
Post # 5
Or maybe he is stalling to keep her around …if he is well off, and has serious intentions of marrying her, he would/should have had his plan (and logistics) worked out.
Unless it was in the spur of the moment in some very romantic scenario and he just couldn’t contain himself from asking right then, and a ring is in the works, on order, etc.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I guess I’d assume that there was a problem on the production line of things or shipping.
Or yeah, like PP said, if he proposed and had decided to get a ring after.
Without wanting to seem like I’m prying, is this inspired by your own current circumstances?
Post # 7
My sister married a wealthy man and didn’t have a ring for months as they designed the ring together after they got engaged, so this would be my initial thought!
Post # 8
@MaidMarian: Yes and no. I got engaged without a ring but there were legit reasons for it and its all good. But, someone we know got engaged without a ring before me (I think almost 3 months ago) and her fiancé is extremely well off, like just bought himself a share of a private jet well off. Almost everyone is saying that he’s selfish and there won’t be a ring and saying she is coming off a desperate.
All the guy told her was that a ring was coming. Everyone is slowly starting to not believe him and she is starting to look a little foolish. I really hope a ring is coming soon for her!
It just got me wondering I guess.
Post # 9
@orchidaloha: I’m assuming he’s proposing to keep her, but there will never be a ring.
I had a guy do that to me. Strung me along for a YEAR on the promise of “We have a wedding date set! I have your ring picked out, I just want to give it to you on XXX date! That will make it SPECIAL!”
Never got a ring.
Post # 10
@orchidaloha: My initial thought is that the ball is in her court! If it was me, I’d have us go ring shopping, do my research, look at ring porn, pick out my dream ring, and have him buy it as soon as I was sure! It sounds to me like she’s dragging her feet.
Post # 11
My husband proposed without a ring but then I’ve never wanted an engagement ring and he knows my views about them! In the situation you describe though I’d be wondering why he doesn’t just come up with a ring instead of excuses. I’d also come right out and ask when the ring was going to arrive.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
@orchidaloha: Ah good, I’ve followed your story so that’s why I asked ^^ My answer was inspired by what I’ve heard from you, your guy genuinely seems to want to marry you but was having a little trouble getting the ring into his hands (unless I completely misunderstood), so I would blame an external source.
In the example you have in mind then I guess that yes he is selfish, and aquiring a ring just isn’t a priority for him or he doesn’t want to (which is fine if she feels the same). People saying she’s desperate is kinda unfair though :c since I assume there’s not much she can do about it.
Post # 13
@Steampunkbride: See, when the bride doesn’t want a ring then that’s totally fine and cool… I just find this situation a little weird because I know she does want a ring, but he hasn’t actually produced one yet.
@ceebree: In this situation he is saying he has already bought it… it’s just been three months and he hasn’t given it to her yet. It does not take 3 months to get a ring!
@MaidMarian: I heard the desperate comment once.. it was a friend of ours who said she’s so desperate for him to commit that she accepted his proposal without a ring 🙁
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2014 - Disney
@orchidaloha: Took 3 months to set my ring. There were numerous issues first production time they were over run with orders, then the stone had issues we had to get another, then we went back and forth on side stones, then they broke the cast……
So yes it can take 3 months. Hell I sent my ring for a spa day 3 weeks ago aka repair and resizing and I get it back on wed. Note a week of that was the shipping proccess to them, and 3 days is the shipping back.
Post # 15
If hes flashy other ways thats a bit out of order!
or he could have proposed with any ring and took her to pick one she likes out?
Post # 16
@orchidaloha: I could care less about a ring, so it wouldn’t bother me. It’s not one of my priorities. If he is so rich and flashy, maybe he can take me on vacation instead of wasting money on a diamond 😛