(Closed) No ring no engagement?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Are you engaged if there is no ring to show for it?
    Yes, of course. : (101 votes)
    77 %
    Yes, but only after you have made your final wedding plans. : (11 votes)
    8 %
    No. Get a ring on that finger! : (20 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 31
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    3462 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    You definitely don’t need a ring to be engaged! If you agree to get married and you start planning, you’re engaged! My SO has my ring and I’m just waiting for him to propose so I can start planning. I didn’t feel right planning before we were officially engaged.

    Post # 32
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    74 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I think it depends on the situation. I knew my proposal was coming, and was already unofficially planning. I used to say we were half engaged.

    Post # 33
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    29 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I don’t have a ring yet but wedding plans are coming along. Everyone around us knows we are getting married. We still call each other bf or gf, on occasions fience. It is whatever YOU make of it.

    We do not say we are engaged. We say ” We are getting married”

    That simple.

    Post # 34
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    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Technically, if your SO asks you to marry them and you say yes, you’re engaged.

    With that being said, I wouldn’t accept a proposal without a ring. I just don’t see the point, I would rather just be together than get married without a proper engagement and ring.

     

    Post # 35
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    5878 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Jeo4500:  I personally beleive that if both memebrs of a couple agree that they are engaged and they are workign towards getting married in some way, then they are engaged.  Rings and other symbols are optional.

    Of course, rings are useful as they send a signal to others that says “hello, I’m engaged and I’m using a socially acceptable norm to communciate that and make it easy for everyone to understnad.”

    Post # 36
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    2847 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We were engaged for about 3 months before I had my ring.  It was a custom made ring.  We had a date and a place. I had a dress and ordered flowers.  You definitely do not need a ring to be engaged.

    Post # 37
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    1647 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We got engaged but were long distance so waited until I was with him to make the custom ring. But I consider us engaged the day he asked me to marry him. Ring is not a biggie.

    Post # 38
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    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    You don’t need a ring, but you need a proposal to be engaged, IMO.

     

    Post # 39
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    128 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    There are many countries in the world, probably most of them, that do not use engagement rings at all. When Fiance and I were first talking about getting engaged, I told him I didn’t need a ring, because he’s tight on money right now, but he insisted. We got engaged when he proposed, he did have the ring, but it wouldn’t have mattered. My mother did not have an engagement ring, and my parents have been married for 37 years.

    Post # 40
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    9589 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    We ask each other will you marry me all the time, but we won’t be engaged till he puts his money where his mouth is. 

    Post # 41
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    949 posts
    Busy bee

    In my opinion, once both members of a couple have decided to get married or engaged, they’re engaged. It can either happen through a mutual decision, one partner can propose to the other and I’m sure there are lots of other ways I’ve not mentioned.

    We’d been engaged a month by the time my custom ring was ready, but that didn’t make us any less engaged. For us, the day we got engaged was the day he proposed and I accepted.

    Post # 43
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    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    You can totally be engaged without a ring but there should be some sort of proposal.  I would not start planning our wedding without those magical words.

    Post # 44
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    9282 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    an engagement is the agreement to get married.

    my husband proposed without a ring (it wasn’t ready yet) and he didn’t want to wait any longer.

    we set the date and started planning.  my ring came in about 6 weeks later.

    i wasn’t going to wear a ring at all, it didn’t bother me, but my mom felt i needed something on my finger.  i wore her engagement ring and anytime anyone asked to see my ring, i hid my hand and said i don’t have my real ring yet. 

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