(Closed) NO RING NO SEX! On Valentine’s Day

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I can understand not having sex with him because you honestly don’t feel like it (from being disapointed). If you are so upset that you do not want to have sex, than that’s fine, but I wouldn’t withhold sex as a punishment.

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yea you probably don’t want to get in the habit of trading sex for jewelry…. 🙂

Post # 6
3981 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@DeathByDesign: I agree. And in the end you are setting yourself up for dissapointment if you EXPECT a ring on Valentines Day. I would look at it this way, if he doesn’t give it to you then, maybe he wants to be origional. Everybody expects to get engaged on Valentines Day. But it is so much more meaningful when it is a day for just the two of you…

Post # 7
206 posts
Helper bee

Has he told you to expect a Valentine’s day proposal? Or are you pre-punishing him for an “expected proposal” that he knows nothing about? If he’s not in the loop on this one then you are playing games by planning to make an uncomfortable end to what might otherwise be a perfectly romantic night. Like a PP said, if you aren’t feeling it that is one thing but scheming to withold sex is plain childish if you ask me.

Post # 8
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Withholding sex as a punishment is an extremely poor decision I advise against it at all costs.

Post # 10
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


Post # 11
3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It pretty much sounds like you will be withholding sex as a punishment.  But I understand if you wouldn’t be in the mood because you’re upset.  I just don’t think that’ll be the case in the end.  You’re expecting a ring.  No ring?  No sex.

Post # 12
1850 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

LOUD NOISES!!!Innocent

Post # 13
2790 posts
Sugar bee

@LoveJA:Have the two of you consulted on your engagement and the ring? Do you know if he has the ring yet? What if it is not his dream to propose to his girlfriend on valentines day? I don’t understand how you think withholding sex on valentines day is going to get you your ring or convince your SO to give it to you. I understand hoping you will get it but I don’t understand punishing him if he’s not ready to give it to you or doesn’t have it at all. I would suggest enjoying the day together and try not to expect anything. Who wants to be a sourpuss if they do find themselves in the middle of a proposal?

Post # 15
690 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t know. I would be disappointed in my Fiance if he had proposed on Valentine’s Day. He’ s much more original than that- he wouldn’t need a “romantic” holiday to be romantic. No offense meant to anyone who loves Valentine’s Day. Just trying to offer another perspective.  I know I’m in the minority- I’m not into the idea of Valentine’s Day at all and we don’t celebrate it.

Arbor Day, on the other hand- we go to town on Arbor Day.

Post # 16
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Yea you realize that this will just start a fight on a day that should be romantic for you both right? If he doesn’t know that you’re expecting a ring and you are pissy all night it just won’t go well at all. You are setting yourself up for a horrible Valentines Day.

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