(Closed) No ring, no Valentine's, no nothing

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just calm down. You know the ring is on its way. Your proposal is coming. It sounds like your SO wants to surprise you, so stop trying to dictate when he proposes. Let yourself be caught off guard. 

Post # 5
392 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014



I get that you want to have the ring NOW but you’re going to have it for the rest of your life. Two things to consider: a. he has spent a lot of money on this gift, let him present it to you in a way that makes him happy and b. you are going to get asked a dozen times in the weeks following the arrival of the ring “how did he do it?”

I did not a get a bended knee with a ring proposal, which was fine with me, but I have since learned that you see a lot of weirdly crestfallen faces when you reveal this to others. So if he’s excited to give it to you in a special way, even though you know it’s coming, let him have that. It will be a sweet story, and it will be something for him to be proud of, and it will save you some awkward exchanges with others.

I do understand your excitement to have the ring on your hand- and you can put it to him that way, to help him better see that it’s not that you’re more excited about the ring than the proposal, but that you’re more excited about the ENGAGEMENT and the MARRIAGE than the proposal, and the ring is an outward symbol of that that you’re excited and proud to show others. But that time will come. Let him have his little while to plan and do something special for you. 

Post # 7
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@1blingedoutbride:  I know my ring has been ordered, and I know how long it will take for it to get here and I’ll know when he has it. He wants to surprise me though so as much as it sucks waiting because I am so excited, this engagement/proposal is just as important to him as it is to me, so I need to remember to be patient so it can be special for him too.

As far as Valentine’s Day presents, I don’t really think it’s fair for the ring to count as your present if you don’t get it yet. I honestly have always hated the whol proposal/engagement ring on Valentine’s Day thing, but that is just me. However, we don’t even usually do presents for Valentine’s Day. Did he at least acknowledge it at all in some way? My SO made me breakfast and we cooked a nice dinner together and he bought us a nice dessert to share! It doesn’t always have to be a present or flowers or something to make it special.

Post # 8
9645 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

@1blingedoutbride:  It will be ok! Let him do his thing. My FH and I ordered my ring together online and it came about 2 weeks later. Then he waited 2 months to give it to me!!! It was worth the wait though, because I let him do his thing and plan it out, and he gave me a beautiful proposal and engagement weekend for my birthday. I was still just as surprised, even though I had seen the ring and was expecting a proposal. Nothing can ruin the man of your dreams proposing to you on bended knee – I promise.

Post # 9
653 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

@1blingedoutbride:  relax, I know how exciting it can be but what if he now waits because he wants to surprise you?  Just be patient, you already know he wants to marry you and spend the rest of his life with you…let him do it in his own time 🙂

Post # 10
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@1blingedoutbride:  I was kind of in a similar situation as you before my Fiance proposed. I knew he had gotten a ring.. how did I know? He’s a guy and wasn’t paying attention to what he was saying and told me that while picking up one of my xmas gifts everyone said I was a lucky lady.. smh so I knew it was coming. At that point I just let it go and waited.. untillllll our friends came into town to visit and he took them with him to pick up the ring. I got a text from the girl (drunk) saying my xmas gift was flawless. Well, that was it! I wanted it THEN! lol ..when I got home I asked when I was getting my present. He said he wanted to catch me off guard and have it be something special.. but luckily he was too excited himself to wait until that weekend, so he proposed to me right then. It was sweet and just the two of us and perfect imo.. however, afterwards he was bummed that I kind of talked him into giving it to me then because he had something really cute and sweet planned and he felt like he let me down by not waiting.

Post # 11
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Relax and just let him do his thing. The ring and the proposal are not all about you, this is also HIS moment too!!  


DH and I had an “enagement weekend” on the books, so I KNEW I was getting engaged that weekend. It did not take away any of the suprise or joy in getting engaged away from me!  I just didn’t know WHEN or HOW he was going to do it…but I was still over the moon excited!  I think it made DH even more happy and nervous to see how excited I was about it….he fed off of my excitement and energy to an extent.

So let yourself relax about the particulars of your engagment and just enjoy the excitement behind it all.  You know he is getting the ring soon, you know it is going to happen soon….just let him do his thing and it will all come about allright!  

Post # 12
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He orderd the ring and it is on the way… let your future hubby do it his way….. just because it is delivered doesnt mean he has to propose that day.. He may very well having something special planned. 


Sit back, relax and enjoy..

Post # 15
826 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

LOL… that’s why i pays NOT to go on a rant…. Congratulations



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